When does this pain end????? I can't take this anymore. I had to put my golden to sleep on July 1st after trying chemo to help put him in remission for lymphoma. Now I am consumed with guilt, anger and the sheer pain of losing him. I listened to my local vet and a specialist oncologist vet. It turned into a nightmare. Now he is gone forever. Will he ever forgive me? I sit beside his grave and weep. I just want him back.

I FEEL YOU YOUR GRIEF. IT HAS BEEN ONLY 9 DAYS WITHOUT CHARLIE AND IT FEELS LIKE FOREVER! I WANT HIM BACK ALSO! THE WAY CHARLIE DIED I FEEL IS UNFAIR IN A WAY, BUT HE DID IT THIS WAY FOR ME. I AM AWAITING HIS ASHES AND FINAL BIOPSY RESULTS. ALWAYS REMEMBER ALL OF THE LOVE YOU HAD FOR EACH OTHER.

the grief cycle (pain) is per the individual. i realize the old adage "time heals all wounds" is corny, but it is true. some people take a week, some take years. give yourself time to grieve and, if it gets too overwhelming, you can see professional counsel or a pet-loss bereavement group in your town.

It is just a temporary separation. You WILL see your beloved dog again. He is happy playing at the Rainbow Bridge and would want you to be happy too.

I am sorry the grief grips you so....please try to forgive yourself first. Your beloved dog has - he is at peace. Cancer and its treatments are so difficult on animals. You loved him so while he was here....now keep the memories in your heart. You did all that you could.

There's not much I can add to the wisdom of what others have already said. I know it's hard and it feels like an agony that will never end, but please bear in mind that it really hasn't been so long since you lost a close and beloved friend. We've all been there, and life will slowly, at your own pace, return to some semblance of what normal will now be. I truly believe that our beloved ones never really leave us - I've had experiences and heard of experiences - which I'm convinced prove that our loved ones' spirits, if not their physical presence, are beside us and watch over us always. Yes, it is corny, and may be wishful thinking, but if it gets us through this very difficult and heartrending time, it's a comfort which is worth more than anything.

I extend my deepest sympathy for your pain, and the loss of your good friend. Loss is something we're never ready for, and the shock makes it all the more painful. I will add that sharing your grief does add a kind of comfort, and as I said, we're always here for you. Please take care and know that you're not alone. My deepest sympathy and thoughts are extended to you - Barbara

I am so saddened by your grief and loss. I am still having a rough time from losing Scooter 5 weeks ago. I've had ok days and awful, sad, hateful days. I, too, wish I had Scooter back again, happy and healthy, just one more day to let him know how loved he was. But, since that is not to be, I just have to remember all his silly ways and how he showed his love for us. Everyone's grief takes a different path, and time. You are never alone here. While I feel physically alone and rejected, I come here. Thank God for this forum. Without it, I would feel truly alone in my grief.
Take care, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Scooter's Mom

You must be in so much pain. I'm so sorry to hear about this. If you feel like crying - cry. If you feel like screaming - scream. Just get it out. Then think of all the good funny crazy loving hours days weeks years you had together and eventually you get a smile on your face. And that smile will get even bigger.

I know how you feel - my thoughts are with you

Frank

Hi Camum:

This sure must be a hard time for you. Each of us has to find things that helps us grieve and cope. Here's some of the things that I've done that have helped me.

1. I ordered a Pet Memorial Stone to remember my boy. I hope to place it out there this week.

2. I set a digital picture of my boy on my computer at work and at home. It was hard seeing it the first time. But the picture of my boy is one where he's smiling and happy. Every time I see it, I think of how precious he was and how happy I helped make his life. It's as if he's reaching beyond death and sharing his love still with me.

3. I ordered (4) coffee cups with photos of my boy on it. One for me, my wife, and for my parents. I figure I can greet the morning with a cup of Java and a positive rememberance of my son.

4. For me, a dog is a part of my family. Nothing can replace the loss of Jackson. But I have decided to get another "son" or "daughter" in the next coming months. Knowing out there that there is a loving canine out there just waiting for me to find him/her and take 'em into my life to bring them happiness gives me a sense of hope. Nothing will replace Jackson as he was unique and special. but there are other "children" out there who need our love.

5. This website has been amazing for support. Use it to express your feelings and to share with others happy rememberances. it helps immensely.

God's peace be with you.

Camum,

I am thinking of you and your golden and I know how unberable that must of been to go through. As several others mentioned....your doggy is now out of any type of pain which is a good thing. You know you can beat yourself up over and over about what could have been changed or done differently, but realy it will never change the love that you and your Golden shared. That is what is most important, cherrishing those memories....keeping them close with you.

As 5catsmom mentioned, your dog is with you, their presence stays with you, I know that sounds crazy, but I whole heartly believe that. My beautiful pug Otis passed a 8 days ago, and as painful and grueling it has been, i have tried to focus on the fact that I know and feel that he is still with me...and not just in memory, but truly with me. I feel him everywhere...and I know I will see him again... I trust that...

I went through a similar experiance, with Otis and his vet's, he had cancer on his left hind leg, which was removed and grew back and not even a leg amputation could help him, but If I would have listened to my gut rather than my vet on his original diagnosis of the tumor just being a fatty benign tumor and having no abnormal cells and they told me not to remove it, then just months later it matastisized into a grade two mast cell tumor, i may have had Otis still with me....but what is done is done and no matter how bad i make myself feel over that, it will unfortunatley never change the fact of where i am at today, which is with out Otis...

Try to stay positive through all the pain and know and believe that you loved your Golden with all your heart and that you and your golden were and are better souls because of that love you shared. Don't ever forget that love you had....and know your golden is still with you....

Peace to you....

Otis's dad.....

There is nothing anyone can really say to make your mourning any better since each person handles it differently. I can say that with time it does get better. I have days where I keep myself busy and do not cry and then I have other days where I do nothing but weep and cry and feel comletely helpless.
I am so sorry for your loss....

This is a great place to find comfort since each one of us has lost a beloved pet and understand...

I just started on this pain as well. I lost Betsy on Monday night. I seem to cry every half an hour or so even at work where I am now. I guess I want her all the time and now, but keep forgetting to realize that you, I and everybody on here who has lost their best friend or friends will see them and be with them for all of eternity which never ends. Don't get me wrong, I am totally depressed as well but I just need to remember the truth. We will be with them again for all time. Please don't forget this. Take care and let us both pull out of this together. Let us let our dogs be our guide because they are already in Heaven. Just listen and you will hear.