My dog Sydney is very ill and tommorrow he's going to the vet for the very last time and I really don't know know what to feel because I feel sad, and I feel like I should just keep my feelings inside so I don't upset everyone else and then my sister is acting like it is new opportunity to "trade up" to a "newer model" of dog but I don't want another for a while, so I need some people to talk to.

I'm so sorry about Syndey. It will be a very very hard day tomorrow (and I'm sure many more days after that) for you. Please don't supress your feelings. If you're sad, be sad. If you feel like crying...cry. Don't worry about upsetting other people. They obviously don't understand the special relationship you have with Syndey. If possible, you can try to tell your sister that telling you to 'trade up' is very insensitive to what you're going through and if she just doesn't understand, it would be best to not say anything at all. Some people just don't get it. Don't let them affect what you're feeling.

My thoughts are with you and Syndey.

I just saw your post today. How are you doing?? I'm so sorry about Sydney. How did everything go?

He's in the realm where there's no distress of any kind, and no awareness of separation from you. To him, it will seem like no time and you'll be there with him (when it's your time to pass from your physical body).

In the meantime, I hope you can take good care of yourself. Sydney wants that. When I lost my Little Girl, I practically lived on this site, and I watched movies, and I didn't talk to anyone who wouldn't understand this excruciating type of grief. And eventually, I adopted 3 more needy kitties in Little Girl's honor.

You're in my prayers! I hope you're doing okay!
Love,
Kathy

First of all, my deepest sympathy. Your letter drew me in as I'm faced with this decision today. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes so bad that I can barely see through them. I don't know what to say or how I'm going to make it through. I hope you are making it through okay. You know what one of my biggest fears is that I'll forget how she looked wagging her tail or some of the other cute things only she would do.

People who don't allow themselves the love of an animal are missing a very special bond in their lives. I'm going to stay away from these people during my grief. I'd love to hear from you. My story is right above yours entitled "Tomorrow's the Day." It has pictures for you to see my babies.

Together in our sorrows. Love, Sue