About two weeks ago, I came home one evening to find that my baby cat had been hit by a car and died. We live on a dead end street that only has seven houses on it, so there is very little traffic. It had to be one of my neighbors, but of course they all denied it.

I don't know how to explain how important this cat was to me. A couple of years ago, I was very, very sick. There were lots of days I couldn't even get out of bed. She just curled up beside me and was always there for me. I lost my job and had to go on disability. She was the only one in my life who was never critical and never expected more than I could do. She was the only one who truly loved me just the way I was.

Because of financial reasons, I had to move to a new town to live with a friend. He's the only person I really know here. He and my cat were all I had. And now she's gone.

I am so alone and I miss her so much. It's been two weeks, and I cry every day. I can't sleep because she always slept with me and now I can't sleep without her. I loved her and she loved me and I need her so much.

Magdalene

I am so sorry for your loss and the way that your kitty died, how horrible for you.

Hope you feel better soon, I have lost two cats this year so I know how much you are hurting.

Cleo 1

You have my deepest sympathy on your loss. When we lose a companion who has meant so much to us, and been through so much with us - with no conditions and so much caring - it is one of the most difficult things we face in life. It's like a cloud which hangs over every minute of every day. When people say that time heals all, it seems like that can never be true, and that our pain will never end and never let up. It's hard to have interest in anything, and our routines seem so out of kilter and our emotions are an absolute roller-coaster.

All of us here have been through this process, many of us more than once, and most of us will have to face it again and again, and the pain is never lessened and never becomes something to be accustomed to. There are no easy answers and no way to make the pain easily go away. It takes time and effort, and you'll always have that memory, and sometimes the guilt seems more than you can bear. I wish I could say something to make your pain easier to bear, but I can't, except to sympathize with you. When people say that time heals all, it does sound like a cliche, and while I've never felt that the pain is healed, exactly, it does become something that can be absorbed. If there is any comfort in any of this, it is that your kitty knew she was loved by you, and that's much much more than many animals in this world can know. The other comfort that I've found, through experience, is that sharing your loss with others does help assimilate it and help to make it more bearable. Please come back and let us know how you're doing - we care and understand. Take care - Barbara

Magdalene, you have my deepest sympathies!


Your baby was indeed a precious soul, and one of the lucky few (because she had you ).

Love is stronger than death, and she still knows how much you loved and love her! For some reason unknown to us, perhaps it was her time? I don't know, but I do know that you'll see her again, and be with her . I completely believe that your baby is in the realm where there's no distress of any kind. She'll be fine---but she wants you to be ok too.

Maybe some day you can adopt and love another needy furchild---in her honor, and only if/when you're ready.

Let us know how you're doing!

Love and prayers and understanding,
Kathy

Magdelene,

I feel for your loss. I lost a cat this week too. I think this website is a Godsend and am glad you are here. We are all with you in your grief. Please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.

Chestnut's mommy (Catherine)

Dear Magdalene,

I want to give you a big 'cyber hug' and am so, so sorry to hear about your baby kitty.

Why these things happen is a great mystery, and they seem to happen to people who are least deserving.
But take comfort in the fact that you loved her very much and she knew that.

I do hope that very soon you will start to feel a bit better.