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dignan
I just put my lovely lady to sleep 10 days ago and I just can't get over the pain. I can't eat, sleep, think. I wake up and think for a moment she is laying next to me (a cat). I hate that my first thought in the morning is of how she isn't with me.

I just found this place and really need some advice.
Ken Albin
First, I am very sorry for your loss. Do you have anyone close that you can talk to? Sometimes just talking can help. There are some other things you can do to help the grief process along:
1) Make a tribute webpage.
2) Make a collage of captioned photographs.
3) Get out of the house as much as possible and keep yourself active doing things.
4) Check the pet loss websites on the main page here. There are some excellent articles dealing with the loss of a furkid.
5) Participate in the petloss chat sessions. It is listed in the links section on this website. There are usually a number of people there who will lend an ear (almost in real time).
6) Put up a memorial at one of the free sites.
7) Express yourself in writing here about the life of your girl.

I wish I could say your condition is atypical, but it is standard fare for most of us here the first month or so. It truly does get better as you go through the grief process. It's better not to do it alone.

My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Ken Albin
SHO713
The pain is horrible, I agree. It was 2 weeks ago for me, on May 22, that I had to put down my best friend, my little girl, Abbie. Besides my human daughter, she was the love of my life. I feel like I've lost a child and the grief is unbearable. I still cry daily for her and the overwhelming feeling of missing her and just wanting to hold her has not eased.
But, visiting this site and some of the others has helped me express my feelings to others that understand. I am feeling like some people at work can't understand why I am still so distressed, so I feel like I'm "squashing" some of my sorrow during the day so it just spills out at home in the evening.
I was so, so sad and upset yesterday when I got the Vet bill and verified Abbie's ashes were ready to pick up, I asked the Vet if they knew of any local support groups where I could "talk" in person. They referred me to our local Hospice and I have an appt. with them Friday morning. I was almost worried to call them for help, but the lady there was very supportive and validated my loss of a "family member." That in itself helped me feel that she really did count and was truly a very important part of my life and not JUST a pet.
Hang in there, visit this site and other pet loss grief sites as much as you need to; everyone understands and agrees with you and KNOWS the pain you are feeling is REAL and you are not losing your mind.
Bless you...Susan
dignan
Thank you all so much for your kind words.
I just keep closing my eyes at night and seeing her face, scared, looking at me while i watched her get put to sleep... I feel like I killed her and it hurts so bad.

She was my everything, we took care of each other. I knew I had to stay strong to take care of her and now she isn't here.

I just keep feeling like I did it too soon and that although she was sick, maybe she wanted to stay with me a little bit longer...
nothing I have been doing is helping w/ the pain and it is comforting to know that there are others who are feeling the same thing and that I am not crazy.
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