I didn't want to go living.On the surface I may seem better,but if truth be told I still feel the same way underneath.I feel so sad for you and your lovely cat Scotty. I have a female cat called Midnight who reminds me of you r Scotty, but I know all pets are different. My Taggy was special, She had been with me for 18 yearsand I miss her so. I can't imagine ever coming to terms with it.I felt distanced from my other pets when she died, I must love them but my grief for Taggy overwhelmed me. This site is helping me to keep going and I have been to my doctor.Thank you Marc for this wonderful site.

Its hard because you loved Taggy, every tear you cry is a tribute to her and the pain is a huge hole in your life that Taggy filled with love and compassion.

She gave you a precious gift, so few feel that total love now you have to heal and slowly slowly fill that hole, and learn to love as unconditionally and one day pass on that gift, maybe to another cat maybe to a person.

we all to often think, this is hopeless im not getting over it quick enough - fhewee - where is it written that we should be this much better by this much time, its slow, agonisingly slow but we get there, little by little.

Getting out of the house is good, fresh air and trees and grass and beautiful views helps us connect to the whole us and Taggy is still part of the whole.

Love Sue

Dear (((((((Taggy's Mummy))))))

I am very sorry to hear about Taggy and also the devastating pain & grief that you are feeling.

In one of your posts, you wrote:


Yes, it's true --- grief IS SOOOOOO TIRING, but going through this journey and working through your grief is so very, very necessary!!

What Sue wrote is so true --- There is no timetable when it comes to grief -- We all go through this pain & heartache differently.
You will "get through this", when your heart is ready -- and, that means baby steps. One day at a time.
And, we all will be right here with you - helping you to go through this journey.



Taggy will ALWAYS & FOREVER BE WITH YOU --- When you love someone as much as you loved your precious Taggy, I believe that, "even death cannot separate that love".
You & Taggy are bound together -- She will always be in your heart!



After our furbabies leave their earthly bodies, I believe they are placed into the loving arms of St. Francis.
And then, they go to a wonderful place called Rainbow's Bridge, where all of our furbabies are no longer sick --- they are young again, they are not suffering.....
They are not lonely.... All of our furkids are playing together, running through grassy meadows, smelling beautiful flowers & chasing butterflies.

Please come here to Lightning-Strike as often as you want & write as much as you want ---
Back when my sweet Ernestine was put to sleep on Feb 7, 2004, I spent A LOT OF TIME right here at my computer...
Every wonderful person here was extremely instrumental in my healing, and I will always be grateful.

Sending you many hugs & prayers.

God Bless You & Yours,

Love, Denise

I am also vey sorry for your loss Taggy's Mum.

I lost my Sidney a little over two months ago and I am still having a very difficult time dealing with the situation. I am sorry that I am somewhat at a loss for advice as sometimes I think that I am doing fairly well and then it hits me hard once again. I don't know if I will ever truly be the same.

I haven't replied to anyone here in a while because I went on a vacation that I scheduled before my little guy died. It was really hard at times because I would have dark spots in an otherwise enjoyable vacation when I thought of how much I still miss him. My vacation was to the middle of the Sahara Desert and as a tribute to him I released one of his hairs into the vastness of the sea of sand. Now when I look at photos of the Sahara I will always think of that one Sidney hair floating around amongst those almost infinite grains of sand.

I know what you are going through and I know how hopeless the situation seems at times. People say that it gets easier with the passing of more time. I'm sure that you feel as I do that it is just too bleak at times to try to imagine getting past the loss.

I wish you well.

taggy's mum
that's exactly how i felt like when i lost my baby. in fact i did not even know that i did not have any food or water to drink for a straight 3 days. i was just crying. my husband talked to me and told me that he needs me and he wants me to keep on living. he also mentioned that my baby would not like to see me in a mess. during those days life was meaningless. but you know, when i dreamed about my baby where she was so happy and young, it made me feel better.

you know what i am still doing now? clutching her bed and blanket wherever i am in the house, because she likes to do that, follow me around. i also wear her collar as my bracelet and i cannot part with her ashes. i have her ashes in my purse so that i feel her presence all the time.

you will never forget taggy. you will never cease to love her. taggy is your life but she does not want to see you a mess! she probably wanted to live just for you but for reasons that we are not aware of, she just have to go. but believe me, taggy is still around you. talk to her like you can see her and before you know it, you will be feeling her presence more. that is the love that binds you together.

i hope you feel better. in addition to coming here often, i also seek a professional help. i still think about not wanting to live anymore, but the drive to keep on living is gradually coming back for my baby.

my prayers, my hopes for your healing, and my love to you and taggy

From my baby Lulu and me

I think our pets would be very unhappy to see us so miserable because they are gone. I think they would want us to be happy and enjoying the short life we have before we see them again.