MY dog Harry was hit and killed by a car today. We were going to the groomers and I let Harry and Tucker my older dog outside a did not put on the collars for the invisiable fence. I thought they would be so excited about the groomer that they would run right back to the door. They have never never run into the road and I am still puzzled on why Harry went into the road but he did. The truck that hit him never stopped several cars that saw it happen did stop to see if they could help. He must have died on impact because when we got to him he was already gone. Harry was the most loving dog he was a yellow Labrador four years old. He hated when you cried and was the happiest when his people were happy. Four years were not enough time with him. I am blaming myself I should have taken the time for the collars. My older dog Tucker also a lab who is six and is all confused. Thank you for listening to me it helps just writing it all down.

I am sooooo very sorry to hear about Harry...

I feel that cars drive sooo fast; I don't know where everyone is rushing too.

Four years old is not enough time, and I really am sorry!
It's so sudden, and I know that your heart is broken...

Please do not blame yourself-I know that it's hard to do...

No one would ever think something like that would happen in such an instant.

I can only tell you one thing I know for sure; that is that your beloved Harry is now
over Rainbow's Bridge, and he is with all of the other furbabies who have gone on before.

There is no pain there; I will pray to my girl Ernestine, that she welcome Harry.

Please continue to come here and talk; poor out your heart.....
I am so very sorry -
I can only say that I am very grateful that I found my way here to Lightning Strikes....

I am sorry that you had to, but for support & love, WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU!!!

I am sooo sorry for your loss!! That is horrible, and something no one should have to witness!! I know how you feel!! My Zip got hit by a car once, and it was all my fault, tho he did not die, it was not his time yet. But the feeling left inside you afterward is horrible!! No, 4 years was not enough, and probably could never be no matter what the cir%%stances. Take comfort in the fact that your Harry will be at the rainbow bridge waiting for you. We all here know the pain you are going thru. Just take each day one at a time, and allow the grieving process to take its path. It's best not to deny the grief, but to accept it. In a few days you will start to remember the best times, and you will smile again. I'm sure Harry didn't suffer, which is good for both of you.
You came to the right place, please post as much as you need to. We are all here to help eachother. So, please keep us posted on anything you want to talk about, and please read our posts, they may bring you comfort to know our stories. Take heart in knowing that the pain will lessen as the days go by, it wasn't your fault. Maybe something spooked Harry into running, things happen. You couldn't have guessed he was going to do something like that. My heart hurts for you right now, and I will be here to cry with you...............Zippers Momma

Oh goodness

I am so sorry for your loss. Please dont blame yourself eboo...Hindsight is 20/20 and i know what you are going through. I lost my beloved P-kitty just a week ago and she was hit by a car not 100 yards from our home.

I know it might not seem like much now, but at least there was no prolonged suffering for Harry. He is in a place where he is safe from harm and he paitently awaits the time when you will meet again. Harry will live on through you...In your heart, your memories and the love you have for Tucker. I'm sure he needs you as much as you need him right now. You have both suffered a horrible loss yet in time your tears will turn to smiles once again as you think of all the times you've shared with Harry.

Like Muffins said, we are all here for you and care about you! This place can make the pain a little easier to handle, i promise. Let us know how Tucker and you are doing ok?

much love and hugs
Nyte

My heart goes out to you and Tucker, for I know how much you both are missing your sweet Harry. Please, don't blame yourself... you know Harry would never want you to feel that way. Harry loved you very much and he knew how much you loved him as well. He thanks you for protecting him, four wonderful years of his life and knows you could never have seen this coming.

I know your pain is immense and there will be several lonely days ahead for both you and Tucker. Love on Tucker and have him lick your tears away as you both take this journey of grief and healing. Remember... Harry hated seeing you sad.

Concentrate on all the great things you and Harry got to experience in those 4 years and you will feel his love all over you! He hasn't gone far... his spirit is and will continue to be around you both. We may not be able to see them physically... but their around us... I know they are!

Please, know we're here for you, whenever you need to talk.

God Bless you & Tucker
DustyLove

I can only imagine the pain and guilt you must feel. I would feel exactly the same way, but please try to remember that you did nothing wrong. I simple mistake, a small mistake, that had huge consequences. That doesn't change the fact that it was ONE SMALL MISTAKE!!

All you can do now is take care of your other furry one and make sure there is no loneliness or sorrow in their heart. Give Tucker more attention and love until he gets over this.

As for yourself, you will go through all of the things we all do - guilt, grief, anger, resentment and loneliness..... We are here for you and can hold your 'cyber hand" until the darkness begins to fade back to light. It may take a while, but it WILL pass.

I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you can gain strength from remembering what your fur-baby was like, and how much love you packed into his short life.

eboothecat,

I am so very sorry for your loss of Tucker and the way that it happened. As others have said before me, please try and not blame yourself. I understand how hard that is as the same thing happened to me with our JJ (Snoop's littermate). We all make mistakes, no one is perfect and sometimes there are huge consequences. Tucker is in a safe place now with the other little furballs that have gone before. He will be waiting for you.

I know the next few days are going to be hard ... please don't hesitate to stop here and pour your heart out. It helped me when I had to let go of my Snoops in September and everyone here is very good at listening. When the sorrow gets too bad try and remember the funny things that Tucker did that made you laugh. This helps a little.

As for Harry, try and explain to him what happened. I know it sounds silly but after my Snoops died my sisters Maltese came over to the house. He looked everywhere for Snoops and finally just stopped and started crying. I went over to him and gently explained to him where he was and why. This seemed to calm him down.

Hugs and gentle puppy kisses my two little guys,
Beth & the Herbs (Rosie and Basil)

Eboo,

I wish I could give you a hug. Your story broke my heart. I am soooo incredibly sorry for your loss. Please, please don't feel guilty. You could not have known. Take comfort in the thought that Harry didn't suffer. He just started running and running until the rainbow bridge appeared before him.

My thoughts are with you. Maybe my Vernie girl can greet Harry and show him what she's learned so far.

In sympathy,
Stephanie

Oh, {{{Eboo}}}, My heart goes out to you!!! I am so sorry about the physical loss of sweet sweet {{{Harry}}}. I can only try to imagine your pain. I lost my precious 17-year-old fur-daughter, Little Girl, yesterday, too, and am empty, grieving, and hurting immensely, but the cir%%stances weren't tragic like in your case (I would be even worse off if they had been). I am sure all of us on this board have been cybertransporting ourselves into your home to be with you and {{{Tucker}}}. Although there's no magic pill that takes away pain as excruciating as this is, this board is probably the closest thing to that pill.
As the others said, WE'RE ALL HERE FOR YOU AND WITH YOU. Please share anything and everything you want to share.
I like what people said about it being "one little mistake"--but regardless of the outcome--which was tragic--it was still one little mistake. We all make mistakes every day, and none of us knows which little mistake might turn out to have devastating consequences. Maybe we don't even think of these little things as mistakes, because life usually goes on as usual. But when life as we know it comes to a screeching halt, as yours did yesterday, and when we feel we caused it, even indirectly, we're quick to blame ourselves. HARRY ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT WANT YOU TO BLAME YOURSELF. His sweet spirit is all-knowing now, and he is fine about everything. What you can do for him is to take care of yourself and Tucker.
When I lost my Mariah in 1998, the cir%%stances were similar in that I blamed myself, and it was a tragic ending, and she was 3 1/2 years old. One thing that helped is that I wrote her a letter pouring out how sorry I was, how much I love her, etc. etc. ...It started my healing process--not just the act of writing it, but the fact that I sensed her complete understanding and I felt her telling me not to agonize. That everything had actually happened as it was supposed to. That she was completely fine. Harry is experiencing bliss right now--he's not sad or anything. He's feeling what we do when we're in a blissful dream--not aware of time passage, etc. It will seem like a split-second before Tucker and you join him!!
Take care. Much love, many hugs, and heartfelt understanding,
Little Girl's Mommy, Kathy