Hi Zipper's Mom:
We all grieve differently; and however, we do it, it is okay!!!
My Ernestine was put to sleep on 2/7/2004, and Dear God, I miss her very, very much -- but, I know that, deep within my heart..... She was sooo sick. It got to
the point that she was starting to starve herself (probably because of all the
violent retching, of stomach acids), and the vet (and myself) we sure she was had ulcers in her esophagus.
Her antacids just weren't helping...
In 3 months her weight went from: 8.2 to 6.85 to 5.9... steadily going to nothing.
She had given me the BEST 19 years/10months of her life.... She had had a few episodes in her last 3 years, that we like "strokes", and I would think she was dying in my arms. I'd say (with tears in my eyes)....it's okay to go my girl....Go to Heaven....You can go and I'll be okay.... But, she'd turn around & be okay...
(the doctor said it was due to her circulation)..
But, I don't cry anymore....I think of Ernie with love & happiness... All the beautiful years that God let us be together.
As you said, I, too, feel at peace.....
She was tired, and her lil' body couldn't hold out anymore.
Grief...we all do it differently.
Doesn't mean that I won't cry again -- b/c, I'm sure that I will..... For right now, I feel okay...she is with St. Francis, and all the other furbabies that have gone on before her.
I just believe that she is with EVERYONE'S FURBABY WHO HAS GONE OVER, AND THERE, SHE WILL BE WAITING FOR ME. She knows that she was loved, so very much by myself, and her dad of 3 years, Ben.
We adopted two furbabies who needed a home on 3/6/2004; imagine, four weeks later.....
Lucy even looks like Ernie, so, sometimes we call her "Ernie"... (and other names

)
Yo-Yo is a beauty; smaller than Lucy... But, they both make us smile!!
The silence in this house was deafening....
I know that Ernie is happy that we adopted these two beautiful souls... They needed a home & people to love them!!
They're great.. We've never had more than one at a time; so having two, and the "spats" they get into. It's all new
to us.
Ernie doesn't want us to be sad...She was the first one to come up to me if my voice "cracked" at all, or, if 1/2 tear fell from my eye. She had that ability to "just know", as all of our babies do.
Yes, it is okay that you are not crying....... just know that our feelings go up & down, so don't be surprised if you find a tear in your eye.
There's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling....
You have a photo on your fridge, I have one on the wall next to me at the computer. I too, look and smile...
And, I remember all of the wonderful years that we had together. I just laugh now more than I cry... And, I know that's how Ernestine would want it to be...
Love,
Denise
p.s. I just looked back and saw the date when you're beloved Zipper passed: I just wanted to say, at just about the same amount of time that Ernie was gone, I STARTED TO FEEL BETTER; I thought I was "all done", but I really wasn't.... I just wanted to mention that.. I had forgotten all about it....
BUT, THE TEARS DEFINITELY DID SLOW DOWN, AND I SUDDENLY FOUND MYSELF LAUGHING. The latter felt (and still) feels good!!!