it's been 6 months~ and i still find myself hurting, grieving, crying at times and just missing my pretty girl!!! she was the best cat. i can't get over this pain and never had i ever thought i would love this much..... my heart feels like someone punched a big hole through it. it still hurts bad. everytime i pull up to my house she's not there and i drive down the street as slow as i can so i don't hit the million cats in my neighborhood, then i get bitter...... WHY MINE????? why don't any of these cats get hit? why did it have to be my pretty girl?? i don't understand it. i just want the pain to stop because i miss her soooo bad... my god is this normal?? does she have my heart with her? please tell me i am not the only one........

Hi,

I am so sorry. I understand how you feel my baby Spooky got hit by a car about 2 months ago, and I am still hurting myself and wondering why my baby. She was such friendly little kitty. I missed here greeting me at my door when I come home from work...I'ts normal feeling this way you are not alone...my prayers and thoughts are with you tonight...

Take Care,
Spooky's Mom/Rubie

dear heartbroken1 - i am heartbroken 2. my best friend was run over, too. i was not around to help him-comfort him during his confusion and pain prior to his heart giving out 4-5 hours later. if i was , i know i would have carried him close to me and never left his side even as he was prepped for the surgery he never got ! i blame others and i blame myself but that doesn't change the facts. our babies are at peace now awaiting the day we can call them to us and hold them close. i am a 48 yrs old man and am crying like a baby as i write this. i've lost a 16yr. old cat, a 17 yr. old cat, muffin, and 17 yr. old dog in the past 2years. when my last cat, joey, died i thought i could never again love or desire another cat, but soon realized i needed feline companionship and loving another would not diminish the love i had for the former . so i adopted josie. at the time i still had my 15 yr. old terrier, suzy. her health was ailing and we knew she didn't have much time. i bought from my sister-in-law(she had no goodness in her heart to give away) her very abused yr. old black lab , and when
suzie accepted him he had found his home- one he would have forever ! suzy taught bear who was boss, but they were friends to the end and bear invigorated suzy to live another 2 yrs. for many months after suzie's death i would look for her at my left side where she always was, and caught myself calling my bear boy suzy. then my heart would break all over again. my suzy was a protector, nothing could keep her from defending her beloved family . there is no doubt in my mind she would have died to protect her family. bear, on the other hand, was a lover. he was my kissy boy. he was the most gentle creature i have ever known. he loved life. he wanted to meet everybody and see everything . he was so strong and fast and loved to run. he loved his car rides and never wanted to be alone. when he was alone , he had his kitty, josie, and they bonded like no cat and dog i have ever known. i am in the process of moving. it will be easier to find a place without a large, active dog. my priority in finding a new home was what would make my boy boy happiest. i still need a place that will accept a dog, though, as i know i also need canine love. when we're settled i will find another baby who is abused or without a loving home, but my gentle giant, bear will always hold a special place in my heart.(i ,too have a hole in my heart)- one that feels incurable, even with the passing of time ! he died much too soon- only 4 yrs. old ! i don't know if i can take my own advice, but remember only the good times and don't replace the love you have for your pretty girl,
continue in it and share it with another needy friend .our babies left us much too soon but the love they gave to us can still benefit another precious soul. i love you and hope we can both find peace and outgoing love again. hopefully only the bitterness and pain will fade away. ron in pa

Hi heartbroken,
I completely understand what you are feeling. My sweet little kitty, Ginger was hit this past Friday night. I can't believe it has almost been a week....it has broken my heart. I also understand your bitterness. I thought the same thing, why mine? There are other cats on my street and I understand the questioning. My sweet baby was about to turn 2 this month. She was so sweet and so young.
Have you thought about getting another kitty? Not that a new kitty would replace your furbaby, but it might help to heal the hole in your heart....

Melissa