I phoned the rescue centre last night to see if they had any older cats that needs a home, now i have a lady coming to my house tomorrow to see if my home is suitable!!!! Im really scared that she will say no!!! oh am i doing the right thing!!! Has anybody ever had a home check and if so what are they looking for!!!!

Hi Sara,

I think you're absolutely doing the right thing. I think babybear led you to call about giving a loving home to a kitty in need, since he knows what a wonderful home you can provide! And I'm sure he knows that you really need another kitty there with you physically, even though he's still with you in spirit!

I wish I could give you advice on what they're looking for in a home check, but probably they just want to make sure that it is relatively clean (showing that you're responsible) and that there is adequate space (like, you're not hoarding 50 other cats in a one-room apartment). I'm sure you'll do just fine!

Best of luck with your new furbaby! Please keep us updated!

Eliza

Wow... they're doing a house check??? Thats just strikes me as being odd. But like Eliza said, they probably just want to make sure that you're responsible and clean. I think what you're doing is wonderful! The fact that you are even considering to do this and open your home and heart again just speaks words for your capacity and willingness to love. You'll do fine! BabyBear will be there to help you out!

Best of Luck!
Cynthia

I hope he will be there to help me out, i just have this feeling that he is will me to do this so i have to go with my feelings dont i!!!!!

As long as you 100% realise that the new cat will not replace babybear then your heart will give you the best advice.

Good luck,

Not wanting to put the dampers on anything, but is someone going to be there with you?

Love Sue

of course no furbaby will ever replace him and i do understand this because the cat that im looking at to rescue is a tabby like barney, which was something that i thought would be hard and to begin with i kept thinking he looks like barney, but the more i see his picture the more i see the difference. im hoping that when i met him i will know if it is right!!! i have thought about this and if tomorrow they say that i havent passed the home check then its just not ment to be. i will miss babybear (barney) for the rest of my life and that special bond we had, i also am aware that the relationship with another cat will not be the same as they are all different. And thats whats making me want to rescue another cat because i loved getting to know babybear i really enjoyed the fact that he was older he already had his personality moody and grumpy!!!!!!! and he loved a good cuddle, If i do get a new furbaby and he or she doesnt want to cuddle then that is fine by me!! i just want to care and love another there are so many older cats in this world that are struggling to find homes as everybody wants a cute little kitten!!!!!! i just cant sit here knowing that i have the capacity to take care of one that just wants to be warm and loved that is all i want to do... i do understand your concerns and i have thought about this very hard, the more i think the more i know that this is my purpose in life is to care for animals since having babybear, I am even looking in to changing my job and training to do some sort of work with animals. Im taking a lesson from my babybear he would have done what made him happy and i know that he would want me to do what made me happy!!!! this hole of emptyness in my heart will always be there until i see my babybear at rainbow bridge no other can ever replace it, but surely in my life time i can love a furbabies unconditionaly and give he or she the best last years of their life!!!!!!!

oh forgot to say yes my partner has to come because the rescue centre likes all members of the household to meet the cat before hand

Dear Sara,

The deep love you have for Babybear is very obvious, and it sounds like you've given the prospect of loving another kitty a lot of good thought. You're absolutely right that there are many, many adult kitties looking for loving homes, and I think it's wonderful that you are willing to open your heart to another furbaby, no matter what their personality may be. I'm sure Babybear is very proud of you!

And I think it's a very nice idea to look into a job devoted to the care of animals. That could make you very happy. That way, not only did Babybear give you years of love and devotion, but he will continue to help you and other kitties like him until you are reunited with all of your furbabies at the Rainbow Bridge!

Please continue to let us know how its going.

Hugs,
Eliza

Hey Sara,
That is great news. And of course babybear will be there to guide you. I am sure you will pass the house check with flying colors. Also glad to hear your partner is involved and there for you. Good luck sweetie, you are soooooo doing the right thing. That kitty is going to be sooooo LUCKY to have you in his/her life. Keep us posted.
Love,
Deb

im so nervous about the visit!!!!! it will all be over in 7 hours and i will know if they will let me have a new furbaby. i just have this feeling that they are going to say no dont know why

Just to keep you updated she didnt come last night she cancelled so she is coming tonight. She kepted talking to me like she was so positive that i will pass and that i can go a get a new furbaby at the weekend, but i said to her please dont talk like that till you have been and done the home check. So its tonight in about 7 hours from now i will know if i can rescue on from that centre. If not then my vet has informed me that they have a post board with lots of adult cats looking for homes so i will pop in on my way home from work. I will let you know later if i have passed!!!!

Sara,

I'm really excited for you. I can tell you are too. The kitty that gets to come and live with you is one lucky kitty. You have so much love to give. Good luck. I can't wait to hear you've been given the OK.

Luna

Hey Sara.
Can't wait to hear that you have a new kitty. You will by this weekend!!!!!! Good luck sweetie.

Love,
Deb

i passed the home visit!!!!! she said i had a lovely home and a great garden for cats. im going tomorrow afternoon at 2.30 to see the older cats that need a home and somebody to love them. Now the they said i can have one (or more!!!!) im nervous about how im going to feel going there, i think i will just take it in my stride and see what happens.
Will let you know tomorrow!!!!

Sara,
I am so excited for you. I knew you would pass with flying colors. Let us know how many you take home. LOL Good luck.

Deb

Thats no joking matter on the form i have just noticed she has written 'One cat or more!!!!!' one will be just fine for me!!!!!!!!!! I THINK!!!!!!!!!!!

May i introduce you to Ben he is 13 and a half years old, very vocal at the moment and all he wants you to do is stroke him all over doesnt matter where!!!! and he head butts everything. he is still a bit shy i think because he wont settle yet but im hoping in time he will be ok

Oh Sara,
He is sooooo handsome. He looks just like Babybear and my Tinky. I am so happy for you!!!!!! Ben is so lucky to have found you. Good luck honey.

Love, Deb

Congratulations on your new little one. I know how hard this is...but having him to care for and love will bring you such comfort and joy.

the more time i spend with him the more i see how different he is to babybear, when we brought him home i was really worried that he looked to much like him. but if i had a black cat and rescued a black cat i would be in the same postion. he is so different to babybear that im really enjoying getting to know him today, he is such a softy where as babybear would rip your hand off if he had the chance and ben meows and barney couldnt so they are so different. he is worrying in at the moment he keeps meowing to make sure im still here i hope tomorrow he will be ok when i have to go to work

Dear Sara,

What a beautiful boy Ben is! And he sounds like he has a lovely personality to go with his handsome face! (He looks like a combination of my Winnie and Tigger!) Thanks so much for sharing his picture with us!!

You are such a loving person to open your heart to this deserving little soul! Ben is so lucky to have found such a comfortable home and such a caring mom! I imagine it won't take him too long to settle in. And adult kitties seem to have a fairly easy time with keeping themselves amused while we have to be away. But it may help him to leave the radio on tomorrow while you're at work and make sure he has a couple of toys he likes to keep him occupied, just in case.

I'm so thrilled for you both!
Eliza

thats what i thought i would do leave the radio on and some toys, im going to go and get him something to hide in tomorrow because everytime you open a cupboard he gets in there and also it will be new and his so he can rub his head all on it

CONGRATS on your beautiful new baby its so cute

i hope you are enjoying every second of it

I left him this morning lying in the hall way purring, im so worried about him i hope he is ok on his own today i have only been away from him for 3 hours and im already panicing. I have decided against going home to see him in my lunch break because by the time i get there i will have to leave again and i think it might upset him more if i go in and then come straight back out again. Im so worried about him already!!!!!!!

Dear Sara,

Ben is a doll. Way to go!!! I've watched you through this whole process since you lost Babybear and I've gotta say, you're a brave girl. Taking on a new kid is a big step, especially when you are still grieving. It's great. It's life to go on and love again isn't it!!!!! You're an inspiration. Ben is a lucky cat to be in your home. Hope all is going well for you my friend.

Luna

Thanks for your kind words luna, just to keep you all updated ben is doing great, he has settled in so well its like he has always been there, he is so loving i didnt think that i would be able to get a furbaby that would be so soft and gentle all he wants is loving. He is more drawn towards my partner at the moment which is fine because my partner is starting to relise what me a babybear had so its nice for him to experience it and to know that he understands what sort of relationship we had. Ben got a new bed yesterday and i just couldnt get him out of it so i had to push him along the floor in it to get him to the room that we were sitting in. He just doesnt care what you do to him just as long as you are loving him. Im so lucky to have him, i was really scared to begin with because i just have all these feelings that i just wasnt sure. But to have him at home and spending time with him has been a joy. Im still in pain from losing babybear but ben is a distraction for a few minutes a day and he is making me understand that in time it will get better. I just hope i can get rid of these thoughts that im going to lose ben soon to, just me being a protective mummy!!!!! im just going to enjoying studing him getting to know all his likes and dislikes and feeling his body and his soft fur, and rubbing that great big nose!!!!

Awww sara so happy for you. Glad its going so well.

Love, Deb