I got the call the other day from the vet. They have a special package waiting for me. It's Theo's ashes. I could have got them on Friday but decided not to bring them home until Tuesday, after our Canadian Thanksgiving weekend. I didn't want to lose the weekend to intense grief. Well guess what? It's happening anyway. How can I go get that little box that's Theo? And yet, I have to get it, get him. I miss him so much it hurts. It does all seem so final now and I have to learn to live without him in my life. This sucks!!

Luna

Oh Luna, I know from experience that just when it seems to get easier, you're faced with another slap of reality in the face. People experience different emotions after picking up their furbabies remains. Some say that they experienced closure and contentment with finally having them home. My own experience was somewhat of closure. I just remember feeling incredibly numb and hollow and beaten inside. Like I had a river of tears that wanted to pour out but I had no strength to shed them. Having a bit of them home is a nice gesture, but its not quite the same. I was lucky that I had my husband with me. I wouldn't have had the strength to do it on my own. Just remember the love and happiness that you and Theo shared. He is with you wherever you go. The body is only a shell and one day you will see him again.

Take Care,
Cynthia

Oh Luna. It brought tears to my eyes reading your post. I remember so well picking up Rush's remains. For me, it just reopened the wound again and felt like a slap of reality across my face. It certainly does suck.

My best friend took a basket of goodies (bagels, donuts, etc) to her vet when she picked up her dog's remains. I meant to do that but had put off picking him up for several days and just forced myself to stop by and get it over with, so I didn't have the chance. It will be difficult, no doubt. So I'd recommend you do it at the end of the day, the rest of the evening will probably be a wash.

Much love to you. It's so hard and there seems no easy way to get through it.

Rushie's Mom

Luna

It was the same for me i put it off till after the weekend but still the weekend sucked, i remember walking in the vets thinking i can do this everything is fine until the nurse said can i help you and i told her why i was there i just broke down, then she handed me this little box with his name written on the top, i just stood there is disbelief looking at that little box and thinking my little boy is in there and all these people with there pets watching me!!!!. Im not going to tell you that its going to be ok because for me it was the closure that i didnt expect that slapped me in the face it was final.... i will be thinking of you on tuesday. I also miss my little man more than words can say, last week was a good week but on friday i just felt the pain coming back all over again i just keep forgeting that he isnt here anymore, i still walk out in the garden thinking that he is under a bush or alseep on top of the shed!!!!! but then the reality sinks in and thats it im back at square one again, i never ever thought that i would be this hard even after i had sorted everything out. I still have everything where it was all of his things are still here and i think i wont move them for a very long time. Im feeling your pain also so remember that you are not alone we are here with you

lots of hugs

babybears mom sara ******

Oh Luna, I am so sorry you have to go thru this. But remember that you are not alone, we all love you and feel your pain. I did not have the money to get the ashes for my 2 furbabies. THe other day I got a certificate for millie in the mail. It certainly isnt pleasant. But the sad memories are always there anyway. But I have to say the new babies do help. I fell asleep with them last night and little Frankie was hugging me. He has an eye infection and I have to take him to the vet. I am so overly concerned and worried though. But he is a tough little guy. But getting back to you, at least you will have Theo back home with you, in spirit. Please know that we are all praying for you and thinking about you.
Take care,
Deb

Oh Luna, I'm so sorry, I'm going to have to face the same thing in the next week or two when Nymph's ashes return.
When I picked up Spicey's I managed to hold it all together until I started driving home. Two years ago when Zody died and I had him cremated I was so shocked that all I had left of him was that little box but I have to keep reminding myself that I have wonderful memories and lots of love still because no matter how much time goes by, the love remains. I wanted to scatter Spicey's ashes today on Thanksgiving but it poured all day, so I decided to wait until November 1st-all souls day, and by then I'll have Nymphs ashes and will scatter theirs in the same spot I scattered Zody's in. I can't tell you how much I miss them all and how much it hurts.
Just remember when you pick up the ashes that the spirit isn't in there, it's flying free and I'm sure wanting you to be happy and to remember the wonderful times you shared.
Send out a message of love to Theo, I do it all the time to my lost loved ones.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

I feel for you. I am going to have to go through the same thing in a day or two when I must pick up my dear Sheltie's ashes--Bailey's. I am trying to comfort myself by knowing that I will place them where she used to love to run by the lake. I hope you can find peace also, even though I know I will just lose it when the time comes. Oh my, it doesn't get easier. Hope that the good times can get us both through. My thoughts are with you during this hard time. Bless all of our furry friends.

Hey folks,

Thanks for all the supportive replies. It helps lots.

Luna