Hi everyone,
A week ago today I found my Millie in my living room. She had passed during the night and she was so cold. Tomorrow will be a week since I put down my Tinky love. I have 2 new kitties to love now. One of them was at the Vets all weekend with a fever. I guess you can all relate to how I felt about that!!!!!. But the good news is she is coming home today. I wonder how long it will be before I stop being constantly worried that they are sick. I took Frankie yesterday for his 2nd shot. While we were in the car I kept looking at him to make sure he was breathing.
As I said in my previous posts Millie and Tinky were my first pets. I was organizing photos on my computer over the weekend and there are a few of the girls. Boy that was hard. One week and I am still in shock and overwhelmed by grief. But I have to say the two new kitties do make me laugh and smile.
It is so weird too, everyone I see or meet I just want to blurt out that my kitties are gone, even people I don't know. I guess its that need to talk about it alot so I can deal with it. Thats why I keep coming back here, it helps me to grieve and heal. My heart is with all you guys out there going thru the same thing. God bless you all.
Deb

Hi,

I know what you mean about wanting to talk about it to everyone you meet. I've found I've had to edit myself so I don't get any non-supportive comments from non animal lovers or people who don't know how to hold grief. That's why I've come to this site too. It's a place where there is a common mind that animals are important friends and family members. The feeling of loss for them is just as valid as any human loss.

I wish you strength during this time. Take care of yourself. Take the time you need to grieve your friend.

Luna

I definitely know how you feel about wanting to tell everyone you meet about your loss! I think I've probably told 50 different people about my Winnie girl in the past three weeks! Many were friends and family, of course, but some were people I hadn't seen in a long time or total strangers! I even acosted an aquaintance I hadn't seen in awhile when I recognized her in line at the pet store. I ended up crying and hugging her in front of the checkout girl! (Fortunately, it was the pet store, and the checkout girl and everyone in line behind me was sympathetic!) I did feel a little crazy, but since I live alone, I was also really grateful for the hugs!

I've since read that telling the story of the loss is part of the healing process. It definitely helps every time I get to tell the story again. That's what is so wonderful about this site. Everyone on here understands that and is willing to "listen." Keep telling your story. Millie and Tinky are very important parts of your family and you have every right to grieve their loss in whatever way you need to. I agree, though, that telling people who are uncaring or who don't understand (which I've done a few times) can make things worse. So, be sure you're talking to an animal lover before you go into it too much!

Hugs,
Eliza

Aww thanks Luna and Eliza for your replies. Every reply helps. I too live alone Eliza so I take my hugs where I can get them too. LOL. Hugs to you both.

Deb