Hi friends,

I have written on this site before for my sweet Maggie, mini schnauzer who passed away Sept 4th of this year. I still need to get her picture in the tribute section which I will do soon.

She has been gone for 3 weeks now. The hole in my heart is still there and I miss her so much. I can say that every day is getting easier to get through the day but still I long for her.

I took a bold step today and went and seen some puppies that are for sale. They were so cute and one little girl really stood out to me. She is also a little schnauzer and seemed to gravitate to me. The problem is it too soon? Maggie was everything to me and I wonder if I am trying to replace her which I could never............. My husband is still so upset that he isn't sure that he could ever go through what we went through with Maggie.

I am just needing some advice. Is it too soon? I don't want to make the wrong decision. I just miss my little girl so much. Please write to me anyone who has been through this process. My heart and my arms are so empty.

Thanks so much to all of you on this site.

Maggie's Mom,
Angie

HI Angie,
I totally know what you are going through. When is it time to look for a new companion, a new friend? Only you can decide that. I just lost my baby a few days ago and I know I won't be ready for months. I feel the same way~ I don't want to feel like I am replacing him or just trying to fill a void. You know when you will be ready... It will feel right and when you don't have to ask yourself "is this the right thing to do?", then it is time. Be strong and don't rush into anything until you know for sure you are ready for a new "baby".

Jennifer
Magellan's Mommy

Hi Angie,
We are in the same place you are and I totally understand how you are feeling. We lost our sweet little Bogie Sept. 8th, 2 weeks ago today, actually. The past 2 weeks have been terribly difficult, the tears are a bit less, but the deep heartache and sadness is bigger than ever. The void and emptiness we feel seems to get worse as the days go by, it's just lonely without our boy here to bring a smile to our faces when we get home every day. We do know that sometime we will get another furry friend....but we are feeling the same way...what is it right?? I tend to agree with Jennifer, that we won't have to ask when it's right....it'll be a feeling that it is. Right now, I feel like my heart can't bear anymore pain and that I need to wait until I feel a bit less fragile inside. We have talked about if we get a puppy and all that it involves....potty training, chewing things, messes, etc, or if we want to rescue a young dog and bypass some of the puppy stages. It's a tough decision...and tho I don't have the answer, I did want to write and tell you that we are feeling exactly the same. I'm so sorry for your loss and do wish you the best. Let us know what you decide.
Hugsssss Beth, Bogie's Mom

I am so sorry for everyone's losses, I know how painful it can be.

It doesn't sound to me like you are trying to replace your beloved pet, you are stating how bad you hurt and how empty your arms are, nothing wrong with being honest.

For me and this is just me and my two cents worth, I oftentimes think there is a reason one passed. It is terribly sad and hurts so much but we only see it from our standpoint, we don't know what the Creator has in store for us or we don't know how much more terrible suffering our beloved pet may have had to go through had they remained longer. The Creator knows what is ahead for us and what is best for us and for our critters.

I have lost pets and been totally heartbroken about it, could not make an ounce of sense out of it at the time but further on down the road we can generally look back and see how and why.

Hi Angie,

I got a new kitty exactly 3 weeks after my cat died. No, I was not ready, but I am glad I did it. I will tell you for the 1st several days, I cried and cried because I missed my Diapey and thought I had made a mistake, because it brought up all my pain all over again.
But now after 2 weeks I am glad I did it. this kitty came from bad conditions. she is very sweet and seems to be quite happy.
The main reason I got one so quick was because I wanted to open a space at the shelter for a possible homeless katrina pet.
And, I have a good home to provide for a cat that needs a home.
The 1st trip to the vet with the new cat was really sad; they all know I'm Diapey's mom. Just brought back a few sad memories there too.
ANd at first I was thinking about trying to "replace" Diapey so quickly. But I knew I wasn't trying to replace her; it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

anyway, you'll know when the time is right. let us know what you decide.

Hi to my friends at this wonderful site.
Just an update. We didn't get the puppy. I am so very sad because I really wanted her. My husband is not ready right now and I felt that we both needed to be.
I can't tell you how much heartache and pain I feel. I don't think this is ever going to go away and I really did like that puppy. She did go to a good home that took her and her brother.

Just wanted to keep you updated.

thanks for the advice.
Maggie's mom,
Angie