Hi all,
My daughter and I just lost our 2 cats Millie 9, and Tinky 10 within 2 days of each other. Millie died suddenly during Sunday night and I found her in the morning. So I brought Tinky to the vet to make sure she was ok. I found out the next day she had advanced kidney disease and there was nothing we could do for her so I put her down yesterday. My daughter drove home form college to be with me and to say goodbye to Tinky. We are devasted. Millie was perfectly healthy, eating and drinking the day before she died. My friend rescues kittens and has already brought me 2 new little ones. They are adorable, but I am not quite ready for them or the responsibility. Tinky and Millie were the first pets for both me and my daughter. And although I have lost many people in my life I never lost a pet(much less found one dead in my living room with her poor little eyes open). Has this ever happened to anyone else? Losing 2 pets in 2 days? It seems surreal. WE are both still in shock and just don't know how to cope.
Anyone with ideas please help us.

Debby and Nicole

I am so sorry for your loss. My baby just died Monday afternoon after just being sick for 2 days (check out post before yours by magellansmommy). His sickness advanced so fast, his little heart just gave up. He had a heart condition, so it was more stress than he could bear. I know how you feel and I too are having a tough time coping. I try to just remember all the good and fun times we had. I saw him monday morning and how weak and sick he became after being so vibrant just days before. The look in his eyes was telling me to let him go and that he loved me. He even gave me kisses before I left, which he barely had the strength to do. Be strong...but take time to grieve despite what people say. Your pets would want you to go on being happy, as they remembered you being!

Jennifer
"Magellan's Mommy"

I know just how you feel. I lost my 13 year old Australian Shepherd 3 months ago, and then 24 hours later i lost my 12 year old Siamese Cat. To lose them both so close was heartbreaking. I didn't know how i was going to get through each day. But i did. I still think about them all the time, but it does get better. 2 weeks ago i adopted a 4 month old Siamese kitten, and she is just a joy. I'm still not ready to get another dog (i still have 2 others), although my husband would have one tomorrow. But coming to this web site helped me so much. I couldn't have got through it without the letters they sent me.
Like i said it does get better. Although right now your going through all the questions we all ask ourselves. Did we do enough for them. Did we not take them to the vets soon enough. Was it my fault they died. And many more. Come to this web site as often as you can, it really is a life saver. My thought and prayers are with you.
Janet.

Debby and Nicole,

I am so terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your two sweet kitties! I haven't had the same experience you have, but I can imagine that the grief you both are going through is doubled because your girls were both special in their own ways! And to lose them both so suddenly must be a terrible shock. You definitely have to give yourself time to grieve the loss of your loved ones, and I'm glad that the two of you can be together, even if only for a little while, since I know how much it helps to be able to talk with another person who also loved and will miss Millie and Tinky.

I'm not sure how I would feel about the gift of two kittens so close on the heels of a double loss. Only you can know when you're ready to take on that responsibility. At the same time, Millie and Tinky were obviously well loved and well-cared-for kitties, and I imagine that the new kittens feel very lucky to have been placed in such a wonderful home! They won't take the place of Millie and Tinky by any means. No one could. But they might help give some more purpose to your lives at this difficult time. I know that I've been feeling like life is pointless and has no purpose since I lost my Winnie girl (nearly-17 year old calico kitty) two and a half weeks ago, but my two younger cats (2 1/2 years) have kept me getting up in the morning. They won't be able to be to me what Winnie was, but they have their own strengths and endearing qualities and I know that we will grow closer with time.

I have found that this website has been extremely helpful. Everyone on here knows how deeply it hurts to lose a beloved furbaby. It's important to know that you have the right to grieve for Millie and Tinky in any way you deem fit and for as long as it takes. Love is love and loss is loss, and when you lose a loved one, you will experience grief and will have to work through it. But, this site and others, as well as books, support groups, and many other sources of information are available to help you understand and deal with this terrible time.

My heart goes out to you both, and you and your sweet kitties will be in my prayers tonight.

Take care,
Eliza

I am glad your kittens are doing well! The newest addition to my cat family really makes me feel better.
Although I was not ready at first, I am glad now, and I feel lucky, that I can give a homeless rescue kitty a chance at a good, spoiled life!