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Jomoose
It will be one week tonight since my cat Rumpton got hit by a car and never came home. I visited this site two days after he died and thought how wonderful it was to find so many people who love their pets as much as i love mine. I just thought i'd like to tell my own story, just because it helps to talk about it all.

My husband and i recently got married and moved in together, we though we'd like to add to our family and since we live next to a farm in the English countyside it would make a perfect home for a cat. So along we went to the local RSPCA and brought home 2 cats!! Rumpton and mouse were 2 and a half year old brother and sister cats who had been looked after wonderfully by their previous owner. That was 6 and a half months ago, but we can't remember life without them. Rumpton was a big ginger and white cat who was full of character and mischief, it took him a couple of months to settle in but in no time at all he had claimed ownership of one of the chairs in the lounge and in our bedroom! He would wake up when the alarm clock went off and if we didn't get up pretty quick he'd jump on the bed and sit on us purring until we got him his breakfast. He was always there to meet me when i got in from work and was just a joy to live with.

On wednesday last week i was off sick from work, Rumpton didn't come home for his breakfast but i wasn't too worried because the weather was nice and thought he'd be chasing birds as usual!! But at 10 am i got a call from a vet telling me the dreadful news that he had been hit by a car and taken there the night before, but by the time he got to the vets it was too late to do anything for him. It had happened on our street but we didn't know anything about it. I was just heart broken and couldn't believe it had happened, i even hoped it was the wrong cat and didn't really believe it until i saw his body. I had to keep looking at him in his box to make it real but even now i hear the cat flap go and think he has come home, or see flashes of ginger out of the window but it is alwyas next doors cat.

I have lost pets before but Rumpton was so special, he was my little boy, it hurts so much more than i can ever have imagined. The whole house feels so empty and i just feel so guilty. He was only 3 years old and i had only took care of him for 6 months and i let this happen to him. I hadn't even spent much time with him the last couple of days because i had been going to bed early as i was ill, but i wish i could hold him again and feed him his cat nip treats all day long. My other little cat Mouse seems to be ok, she looked lost and was more clingy for a couple of days but she is back to normal now. I feel bad for her because whenever i look at her i feel the loss of Rumpton even harder and so i don't show her as much love as she needs.

Thanks to all of those who wrote about not wanting to hoover, i still haven't done it but before i read those messages i was sure i was going mad. I also don't want to have a bath because the last time i saw Rumpton i was in the bath and he came in for a fuss, then sat outside the bathroom door for ages whilst i soaked (but don't worry i have had a shower!).

Thanks for reading my message, your messages have given me hope that i will eventually stop crying and feeling guilty, but i will always miss my special Rumpy cat.

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Eliza
I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of your baby Rumpton! What a special kitty he must be to have stolen your heart so quickly and so thoroughly! And how lucky he was to have had such a loving home! You and Rumpton and Mouse will certainly be in my prayers tonight. I know that he is with you in spirit and trying to show you how much he loves you so that you won't feel so guilty.

I know that we all go through feelings of guilt, no matter how our beloved babies pass. And when it is something so sudden and out of our control (like anything about death is within our control!) it can be even worse. But, please don't plague yourself with unnecessary guilt. You gave your little Rumpy cat a terrific life and I'm sure did everything you could to keep him safe. This terrible accident wasn't your fault.

I'm glad to hear that Mouse is doing O.K. I think they understand the passing of another animal's spirit better than we do, and so come to accept it much more readily. But, she does still need you, and I hope you can both be a comfort to each other.

And I hope you come back to this site and post as many times as you want! There are so many wonderfully caring people here who will be able to offer lots of comfort and support in this terribly difficult time!

Take good care,
Eliza
crazycatwoman
im so sorry for your loss

dont blame yourself, it was the driver who is to blame. you did the very best you could for Rumpton the only thing you can do now is take care of his sister. give her all the love you would give him

your in my thoughts

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