Miss Molly was the light of our life for 14 years. She went deaf a year ago and lost vision in one eye from cataracts. She still jumped on the furniture, terrorized the cats and gave us endless love and entertainment. She understood phrases and reacted accordingly. "Gonna wash your butt was a favorite". When she suddenly lost sight in the other eye, we couldn't stand watching her bumping into walls, etc. She lost track of time and began waking us about 30 minutes earlier each day for breakfast. We decided to have her cataracts removed and implants inserted. They said she was a good candidate. All went great for about 4 days; then she quit eating, then no eliminations. The vets finally had to give her some help. About aweek ago she finally went on her on and it was all bloody. Dehydation, unexplainable blood test results; every day at the vets and nights at the emergeny clininc on an iv. She was such a brave little girl thru it all. They said she was sitting up, looking around. When they turned back around 5 minutes later she was down. Cpr was unsuccessful. We have no children by choice; the pets are our kids. I fear the grief and guilt is going to kill us both. Everytime I close my eyes I see her wagging tail welcoming me. Our hearts hurt for the rest of you as we know how you are feeling.

Jim and Terry,
My heart goes out to you, as we are feeling the same pain in the loss of our Bogie. I am only on day 3 of the darkest days of my life. I am so deeply saddened by our loss and for yours as well. I am hoping the others are right when they say it does get easier with time. It's too soon for me to reassure anyone of that. Please keep up with the postings, so we know how you are fairing and hang in there.
Sincerely, Bogie's Mom (Beth)

Aah Molly is truly adorable.

I know it is so hard at the moment and all you can do is to take each minute/second as it comes and then let that minute/second go until eventually you realise that 5 minutes have gone.

It is a long slow process you have to be kind to yourselves and each other be patient allow the feelings to come and be and then let them go.

There are no short cuts maybe a year maybe less maybe more but the pain will ease and you will smile again i promise.

Love Sue

Dear Jim and Terri,

Miss Molly was absolutely adorable. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've often said to many people here that no matter how we lose our beloved pets, be it to an accident, old age, cancer, or whatever, we feel a great amount of guilt. I think we feel guilt because our pets trust us with their lives and they love us unconditionally, and no matter what happens to them, we feel responsible. I know I felt responsible for Shiloh's cancer and for whatever was wrong with Hobbie. The fact is, we love our pets very much and we would never do anything to intentionally hurt them or cause them harm. You loved Molly so much and you wanted her to have the quality of life she was used to...being able to see. You acted on the advice of your vet who said she was a good candidate. Dealing with the grief of losing such an important family member is very hard, but when you add in guilt, it makes it almost unbearable. Please be kind and gentle with yourselves. You did what you thought was best for Molly. For her whole life you spoiled her and loved her with all your hearts...in the end, that's really all that matters.

You're in my thoughts.
Hugs,
Kathleen

Such a little sweetie...

I'm so sorry you lost your little loved one and I know how much it hurts.

I don't know if this has any bearing but my little Spicey went unexpectedly blind in one eye at age 14 and then one month later lost sight in the other one also---after a series of vet visits one finally diagnosed congestive heart failure. She lost her sight due to hypertension that no-one had ever diagnosed before. Unfortunately when it was finally diagnosed it was too late to save her sight. She died peacefully in her sleep one month ago today, her heart just gave out.

I know it is so easy to feel guilty, I seem to do it for a number of reasons with every pet I lose but try to focus instead on the wonderful life you gave her and all the happy times you shared. Know also that all of us here share your pain...
Hugs...

JIM AND TERRY, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. AND I HESITATE TO STATE HOW BEAUTIFULLY CUTE MOLLY WAS/IS CAUSE I KNOW RIGHT NOW THESE THOUGHTS ARE DEVASTATINGLY PAINFUL. THEY WON'T ALWAYS BE. THEY WILL BECOME FOND AND PLEASANT.
MY GIRL DOLLY (12 1/2 BEAGLE) PASSED 2 1/2 MONTHS AGO AND I STILL HURT BAD. BUT I AM STARTING TO REALIZE NOT ONLY WAS SHE MY 12 1/2 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER , BUT AN 80 PLUS LADY, WHO LIVED A VERY FULL AND HEALTHY LIFE. SHE SMILED BY USE OF HER TAIL: (CONSTANTLY).
WE R ALL ENTITLED TO FEEL VERY DEPRESSED CAUSE CURRENTLY, "WE ARE THE WORLDS GREATEST LOSERS" BUT THE "GUILT DEVIL" ? WELL DON'T BELIEVE IT. CAUSE EVERYONE ON THIS SITE CARED SO, SO MUCH , AND WE ALL HAVE A FUNNY WAY OF FEELING GUILTY. SAD, DEPRESSED, BEREAVED ? ABSOLUTELLY ! BUT I CAN CERTAINLY TELL THE WAY YOU CARED AND FELT FOR MOLLY, GUILT DOES NOT BELONG HERE. GO EASY FOR NOW, AND KNOW THE PAINFUL MEMORIES EVENTUALLY GO BACK TO THE WAY THEY WERE ~GREAT MEMORIES~ FOR LIFE.
PHIL.

Hi Jim and Terri,
One week behind us and the pain and emptiness is as intense as ever for us, as I can only guess it is for you too. I wanted you to know I am thinking of you and hoping you are both getting on as best you can. Miss Molly was a beauty to be sure. We miss the bubbly energy Bogie gave our house and are experiencing so my 'firsts' without him. And the tears pour down our faces. It's got to get easier, I just wish it would sooner than later. Try to hang in there.
hugsss to you both,
Bogie's Mom, Beth

Thank you, Beth, Sue, Kathleen and everyone else for the kind words.
I am overwhelmed by all the new people signed on since I did. So much hearteache...........

We picked up Miss Molly's creamated remains from the emegrency clinc
yestersday evening and discovered her name was mispelled on the plaque.
Terri just lost it there in front of everone. Our pain has not decreased nor our anger.

How I miss our little games; about 4 p.m. she would set up in front of my easy chair and just stare until she got my attention.
I would hold up four fingers and say "It's only 4, Molly". She dropped down immediately and went to try the same thing on Terri
in the other end of the house. Terri would ask her if it was 'dinner time'; she would speak loudly! Terri would then say "Go tell Daddy" and here she came lickity split. Slid to a halt and barked at me. Dinner was served.
we went thru variations of this every night.

I located a wonderful lady thru the SPCA grief support web site. She's been there so she knows how we feel.
I hope we all getter better soon...........
Love and hugs Jim