please someone give me some advice! my friends cat meant the world to her and the cat died recently. my friend is understandably very upset. i tried to call her to offer support but she said she couldn't talk to anyone right now. i know that is normal, but what should i do? leave her alone or make her tlk. i tried to get her t talk a bit but she just got angry at me. i am so worried about her.

First off, how great is it to see someone who actually cares and understands that the loss of a pet is devestating... harry you are one of the few that truly care enough to understand.. she is lucky to have you as a friend.
Give her time. I know for the first little while I didn't want to see or talk to anyone either. Make sure she knows you're here for her when she needs you, 24 hours a day... Maybe tell her about this forum.. sometimes its easier to write about it rather than talk about it.. this forum saved me and continues to do so as I grieve for my boy.
The most important thing is to just let her know you care, and are there. She'll come to you when she feels ready. Don't push too hard, but don't leave her altogether either.. keep calling every once in a while, emailing, or stopping by. She's not mad at you, she's mad at the world for taking her baby... In time her heart will start to heal and she'll need you to lean on.

Dear Harry,

Jenn gave some great advice. Your friend needs a little bit of time to process the whole thing, then she'll probably want to talk about it. When she wants to talk, it's important that you listen and comfort her.

Also, if she has access to the Internet, tell her about this forum. Sometimes it's most helpful to commiserate with folks who are in the same boat.

Good luck, and please send my condolensces to your friend.
Kathleen

anger is a necessary by-product of the grieving process. as others have suggested here, give her the URL to our site and let her explore her emotions
on her own for a while. once the process has moved along a bit, so to speak, you can help her out more.

thankyou so much... hopefully she will talk to me long enough for me to tel her about this site, at the moment i can't say anything. in the meantime i'll just keep praying for her
but thankyou guys for your advice u have been very helpful.
god bless
harry