My Middy is in peace now. I am so happy for her that she's not suffering anymore. Im still a little sad, but it's not unbearable now that she's not suffering.

She got buried with her favorite red ribbon, and a soft shirt that smelled like my sister. We're plating red Tulips on her grave because Red is her favorite colour And we're putting a little black cat statue on her grave

At the vet some lady tried to get me to take one of her cats, but while sobbing, I nicely turned her down

Im okay now. She's happy and in heaven with all of your pets and they are playing in a great big happy field with each other

WE LOVE YOU MIDDY!
October, 1992- August 1st, 2005

Noriko,
I am so sorry to hear about your baby Midnight.
It is so hard to go thru this, but everyone on this board understands EXACTLY how you feel.
You have definitely come to the right place.
I know there are no words to console you in your grief, but keep in mind that time WILL alleviate this horrendous pain you are feeling. When I lost my DIxie 3 weeks ago, you might as well have hit me with that car too. It hurt (and STILL hurts) sooo bad that I felt my only way out of the pain would be when I die too. I sometimes still feel that way, but it IS getting better. We will ALWAYS miss our pets, ALWAYS. But as time passes, it gets easier.
My thoughts are with you and Midnight.
Dana

Thank you.

Im dreading the day we take her on her last ride in the car and hearing her precious little meows for the last time

i didnt know I could cry this much
but im really happy for this forum, to know there are others going through the same thing I am, and my sister is as well

Your kitty is absolutely beautiful. I'm so sorry she's very ill.

I know putting a furbaby to sleep is very difficult. It sounds like your kitty is pretty sick and in a lot of pain. Try and think of this as giving her a great gift...you're taking on her pain, so she can be pain free. I know it's hard to feel that way (especially in the first days), but it really is true.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.
Hugs,
Kathleen

I am so very sorry. MIddy is gorgeous. Everyone here knows exactly what you are going through.

It's exactly like Kathleen says - sometimes we need to take the pain from our furbabies so that they can be pain free. This is the most difficult, painful, and yet most important thing we can do for them.

When I had to have my cat Ammy euthanised, I was devastated - he had been my constant companion and dear friend for 16 years. But he was really ill, just like Middy, and I knew that I couldn't keep him alive, suffering, just to delay my own grief.

We are all here to support you.

Jules

Hi Noriko,
I'm so sorry about your baby. The decision to end her pain is as tough as they come, but very much needed for Middy, as she is in pain.
I had to make that choice on May 24, 2005 for my baby, Cosmo. I cannot begin to describe all of the sadness and guilt that poured out after I let him go. I was really beaten up, both physically and mentally, for about 2 months. Although I still miss him as if it were yesterday, the guilt of having to make that choice has subsided, and it is all due to this forum and the beautiful souls in it. I am so grateful for the words of comfort that I have been given here, as well as the stories of other grieving souls that make me feel that I am not alone. Believe it or not, someone else's story is what ultimately relieved me of my guilt. Reading what she has been going through trying to save her baby from the same illness that took mine, has led me to believe that I made the right choice for my sweet Cosmo.
I know how hard this is going to be for you and your sister, and I could say a million things now to try to help you feel better, but those words probably won't help much right now. Unfortunately, grief has it's own timeline, and time is the only thing that really helps to relieve the pain. I wish there was a way I could spare you the loss you are feeling and going to feel, because I would do anything to not have someone go through the feelings I did, but believe it or not right now, going through those motions has begun to help me find peace. While we have to go on without our babies here, I do believe they go on to a much better place. One step at a time is the only thing I can say, and with each step there will be various emotions such as guilt, sadness, fear, anger, and even distance from people or pets that are still in our lives. I can only hope that with each step you take, you will eventually find peace, as I have.
The most important thing I can say to help you is to allow yourself the time ( and there is no set amount of time) to grieve and cry. Make sure to not bury those feelings even if people around you act like you should. (If that happens, make sure you pour those feelings out here.) Make sure you take as much time as you need, and to try to take care of yourself during these times ( stuff like eating and sleeping that we do everyday, can be forgotten when we are feeling intense sadness) and after a while, you will find that you are feeling better. I thought I never would, and there are times when it creeps up on me and I feel just as intense as day 1, but it doesn't last as long as it did, and I am grateful for that. I believe that it is Cosmo sending me the Peace I need, so I try to think of it as just that, and do not allow guilt to replace it.
I will be thinking of you and praying for your comfort as you travel this horrid road. Please come back and let us know how you're doing and we'll listen and help in whatever way we can.
Love,
Michelle

We've decided to talk to a friend of the family who is a vet. The mass is buried in her liver and galbladder, but we want to try to get it removed as much as possible so that it can releive some of the pain, and get her to eat on her own at least a little. Hopefully this can make her life a little longer...

But I'm scared she won't make it out of surgery! The vet said there's a risk she won't... She's 12 years old and I don't know if we should put her through that....

I'm so confused. I don't know what to do! Should we have the surgery and at least TRY to help her, and if she dosent make it at least know we tryed to help? Should we wait and put her down?

My best friend came down yesterday to help console me, only to find the next day, that her miniature poodle has breast cancer. Her dog is 13 and she wants to go through with the surgery before she leaves for college. What is GOING ON HERE? This is crazy... first my kitty now her dog? It's too much for me to deal with...

We are both in such crazy emotional states right now... I've been habing flu-like symptoms... I feel cold but I'm sweating, my stomach is in knots, my legs are like jell-o, and I feel out of my body most of the time, not to mention I had to leave work because I couldn't stop crying.

What should I do for my Middy? Do you think the surgery is a good idea? Do any of you have older pets who made it through surgery?

I need some kind of comfort... I just want to help our beautiful Middy!

Some one please help me >_<

I have a friend who's in basically the same situation. Her 16 year old cat has a severe sinus infection from some infected teeth. She's been afraid to have him anesthetized because of his age, so her vet's been treating him with antibiotics. The antibiotics have worked for a while, but now the infection is too deeply rooted and the antibiotics aren't working. She started a new round of antibiotics and decided that if the medication didn't work, she'd have him put to sleep because he's so miserable. What I told her was if she had intended on putting him to sleep, she might as well try the surgery. If the surgery is successful, her kitty might have a few more good years with her.

If your vet thinks that Midnight might have a few more years if her surgery is successful, I'd say go ahead with it. If you don't try the surgery, Midnight will probably have to be put to sleep anyway.

Good luck with your decision. I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs,
Kathleen

I think we have to put her down tomorrow... She keeps throwing up her food It's almost the day i've been dreading...

I don't know if I can do it...