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steviesmom
My precious 10 yr old cat, Stevie, passed away this past Monday. The vet is not sure what happened. I am having a terrible time with guilt, anger, grief. She was my everything for ten years. I don't have human children. The only way I can describe this--it's like losing my child. Does anyone have any suggestions for coping? I don't know how I'm going to get through this. I have two dogs but nothing could ever take Stevie's place. Thanks, in advance, for your help.

Tracy
Christine
I'm so sorry. I can only tell you that it will get easier in time. My ##er spaniel, Sandy P., died on Tuesday. She was almost 16 years old. I miss her so much, and I can't keep from bursting into tears during the day. I went through this six years ago with another companion, so I know that it will get easier as time goes by. You won't get over it, but you will learn to live with it. I'm looking at a photo of Sandy P. as I type this. She was my girl. We never went on vacation without taking her with us, and during the last few months, I hardly ever left her except to go to work. I know I'll see her and all the other wonderful companion animals that have left me again some day. Life right now has lost it's sparkle and I'm just going through the motions. My thoughts are with you and everyone who has lost a companion animal. It's not something we can talk about with our friends because they don't seem to understand that they are like children to us.

Christine
SJ J & S
Hi Tracy
There is only one way to get through this and that is to take one minute or even one second at a time, as heavy as your feet feel, keep going forward.

Give yourself the luxury of time and allow the healing tears to flow.

Post Stevies story here, I know its hard to see the screen for the tears but it helps if only a little.

As painful as this time is be kind to yourself and give yourself a hug you’re a very special person that is capable of deep love, not many people out there can say that.

Love Sue
Ken Albin
Tracy,

I am so sorry for your loss. My main suggestion is to remember Stevie by giving a tribute on the memorial page. Tell Stevie's story as only you can do. The rest is a matter of time. Take care.
steviesmom
Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement. This truly is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. In the last year, I have lost my father, my mother has been diagnosed with advanced dementia and now I've lost my "child." Your words helped me get through the weekend. I'm merely existing right now--taking it moment by moment. I will certainly post a tribute to Stevie sometime soon. Bless you all.

Tracy
TinaB
I know all too well the feeling, I had to have my Mac (17 year old cat) put to sleep this past Saturday after a 7 month fight with an aggressive oral cancer. I can't say that this being the second full day without him is any easier than the 1st but I guess time will help. I've been trying to remember the good times like when he used to play hide and seek with me or sit on my lap and meow for cool whip. The empty is still there even though we have a 15 year old dog and a 1 1/2 yr old cat-something is still missing. I am deeply sorry for your loss and all of us together can help us all get thru these terrible times together.
take care
from one broken heart ot another
karen424
Tracy,
First of all - please know how sorry I am for your loss of your precious little baby Stevie. Everyone here understands and will help you through this very difficult time. I have had similar losses as you - I lost my mother two years ago and then exactly one year later lost my baby Buster. I have never had human children, but consider my kitties as my children. Buster was 15 when he passed. It's a hard road dealing with this kind of grief. Guilt is one of the many emotions you will feel, but please find comfort in knowing that Stevie knows the love you feel for her and gave to her for 10 years. It's a mother's natural feeling to feel responsible for not doing enough, or too much, not soon enough or too soon.....but it's out of our hands sometimes. Just come here when you feel like it's just too much to bear....we will be here to help and lend a comforting shoulder to lean on...

Love,
Karen
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