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Dear Kai:
Thank you for your message/"The Dance"/ AND about your Beloved Trixie.... It doesn't matter how long.... Twelve years is a very long, long, long time. A loss is a loss & it's a very big loss when you have loved....
My heart feels like someone smashed it into 1million pieces; I have a lump in my throat and my heart hurts. I cry when I'm just sitting there... Ben & I comfort one another; he was her dad for 3 years & got very attached....
Ernestine (she had lots of names; Ernie-Bird, Roy, Muffin, Girl), because I guess she was my everything.
For the past few years she got into jumping onto the toilet cover, so that "when" someone went by the bathroom, they'd go in & turn on the water so she could drink out of the sink. AT LEAST 15 times/day. I'd make a big production, wiping off the sink & then looking at her, & say, "are you ready"??, and she'd leap onto the sink, go into the sink, and start lapping away...
I have pictures of that--I tried so hard to find them last night...
When Ben would go in to shave in the morning, she'd be right there..... He misses that. He'd have to have a "cold water shave" because he didn't want her little paws or mouth to get burned... I have a little Beanie Baby "Cat" that I put right on the sink.
She had two favorite Beanies (a Lemur & a Lion), which I held tightly in my hands last night & took all of her little friends to bed with us.
I saw her hair brush, with her fur.... I smell it, look at it, touch it....
About "sad songs"..... Garth's "The Dance" always made me cry...when it first came out and everytime I hear it.
There's another song out now that talks about "100 years to live" & it talks of going through different ages..... and, the Eagles, "Hole in the World", with regard to the War, losing people, mom, dad, brother, sister..... I have to ADD "beloved pets" in that, although that isn't the songs intention..
To Everyone..... I feel your pain & I am glad that "Lightning Strike" exists.... I never knew...
Love, Denise
Saki & Freyja's Mom
Denise,

I am so sorry for your loss of Ernestine....

It can be so hard. I KNOW your head hurts. I know how bad that particular headache is. But I guess it's just gonna hurt, along with your heart, for awhile.

Advice: Put some pics of Ernie in the bathroom. Or wherever else she needs to be right now. For years, Saki would watch me put on my make up every morning. And after she left (passed) it was weird to put on make up without her watching me. I finally put a photo of her by my vanity, and it helped.
And all of those special things. Create a special place for them. Her toys, and her brush with her hair still in it... I've got a box. Just the other day, I got out Freyja's brush and breathed it in. Freyja's been gone since May 28, 2003 -- I don't know if the scent is still there. But it made me feel better...

The head ache and the heart ache do eventually get better. Still, I am sorry for your pain.

Love,
Jennifer
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