stacey lost her rat griffin i need advise my life is going down hill also im having a hard time hanging in there
Dee's mommy
Avril

Let me clarify...was Griffin a pet in your family? I'm so sorry for yours and Stacey's loss. All of God's creatures are so special and the ones who become our pets are so wonderful. It hurts so much when we lose them. I hope that you can take comfort in the fact that Stacey gave Griffin a meaningful life full of love and of fun.

I am so sorry that you feel as though your life is going down hill. Are there other issues as well contributing to this feeling? Believe me though, I know that the loss of pets is enough in itself to make us feel out of control or hopeless. But please know that your time of healing will come, just as now is a time of mourning. Please tell us more about what you are going through if you wish. This place is a great outlet for our sadness, and I hope that we can all continue to be a source of strength and of friendship to each other despite all the changes that have happened here lately.

I had sort of a breakthrough the other day that I will share with you, and I hope that it can help you at least to think about it. Now that I have been through the experience of losing my beloved dog Allie at age 2, I believe that when getting a new pet, it is so important to immediately think about and come to terms with the fact that in all likelihood, that puppy or kitty or other pet will unfortunately die within our lifetime. It may be sooner or it may be later. This doesn't make it in the least bit easier when the time does come, but I think it may allow us to think of the "job" of "pet parenting" a little bit differently. To accept the fact that their lives are so fragile and so short compared to ours, in my opinion, gives us the opportunity to provide another pet a loving home when our little ones do die. I truly believe this is what all of our pets want for us. There are SO many deserving and unloved pets out there who need us. They desperately need people like us to take care of them. Death is not an ending, but rather a beginning! An opportunity! I know it is so hard to think of it this way when we are hurting so much and missing our babies. It does not take the pain away, but it does give us a new outlook and a hope for the future.

I hope that your life takes a turn for the better very soon. Remember, in the darkest hours, in the depths of our sadness, when things can't get any worse...things will get better.

God bless you,
Jenny