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jennieg0607
My baby girl has been gone for a month now and it still hurts like it was yesterday. I still can not get over the fact that the individual that hit her never stopped and did not care enough to know whether she was dead or alive. I cry every day and just dont know how to get over this pain I am feeling. My son is the same way, he even has problems driving past the house that she flew into. I am trying so hard to help him but how can I help him if I can't help myself. I still can not even look at other dogs because I feel so bitter. How do you get over this pain and why do some many people think you are crazy because of feeling this way? I loved her so and don't understand how we could have saved her from an abusive home just for her to leave us in such a tragic manner. She was only a baby just 2 1/2 and for the first 4 months of her life she was tortured. I loved her and treated her like one of my children, why did she have to go?
sushie
Please know that we are here with you feeling similar pain and heartache. One way or another, we'll make it through this. I pray. I for one have never felt such brokenheartedness. It just doesn't make sense that such bounteous goodness, perfect sinless souls consecrate their lives so intensely to us for this short time. The heartache is so intense and just doesn't fade away. I never thought it would be this way either. You can't hide it, it's clear.
luv_my_catz
I am so sorry for your loss ~ the manner of your Kyra's passing so seemingly tragic and needless ~ I believe that there are beings on this earth that are angels among us in all forms ~ God sends them for a brief time and brings them home when their work here is through ~ the intense love you gave to Kyra never dies but only serves to make the goodness of this world more powerful and strong ~ these celestial beings are our guides and teachers ~ they are never gone from us - in fact probably guardians of our souls all along and manifested in the physical at a time and place where there needed to be innocence and joy ~ I do not believe that God causes any of the hatred and abuse - torture and maiming in this world but it is that of another entity ~ I also believe we as participants in the universe are under spiritual warfare at all times and that the love we share and show one another is the only weapon that can over power the destructive forces that are there ~ Your sweet and dear Kyra had a wonderful life with you ~ there is something so unexplainably transforming that results from the sacrifice of innocence in this world - while that sacrifice angers me beyond words ~ it only intensifies my spirit to be more loving and compassionate ~ and to be able to go on with the angels that guard my path and protect my way hovering at my side ~ we all have protection from God ~ Kyra was and still is your dear loving protection now and forever ~ May you find peace in your day ~ May the wind be always at your back ~

Kathryn
Snickster
Dear Jennie,

That one month mark is a painful one, I know. Kyra is with you, though, and always will be. She knows how much you love and miss her and she loves you just as much.

We'll do our very best to try to help you feel a bit better. We understand your sorrow and pain.

Hugs to you,

Pat
Kathleen032
Dear Jennie,

I think what you're feeling is perfectly normal. Kyra was taken in such a sudden and tragic way...and she was so very young. I know you feel cheated out of having many happy years with her. I also understand the bitterness you feel about other dogs. It took a long time for me not to feel bitter about Shiloh being taken at such a young age.

The 4 week anniversary is a very hard one because you go from counting weeks to counting months.

Please know that things will get better. As time passes you'll find that you have more good days and fewer bad days. Shiloh has been gone for 8 months now and I still have days when I think of her and just cry, but those days don't happen as frequently as they used to.

Hugs,
Kathleen
Ladypurr
Oh, Jennie...I'm at a loss for words. They seem so inadequate to address such a tragic loss.

My heart aches for you, but especially for your son. It's like you said, how can you help him when you cannot find a way to understand and help yourself?

There is so much heartache and tragedy in this world. Your precious Kyra is truly an angel, as Kathryn described.

If we dwell on her previous life, we will go insane. Though her time with you--if measured solely by moments--was heartbreakingly brief, rest assured you showed her the other side of mankind--the best side. I'm sure Kyra never lacked for love and attention one tiny moment! And, thanks to you, all her pain has been erased. She will only know and remember your love...forever.

God! I will never understand why things like this happen. It tears me apart. Here is a dog that was so abused and when she finally gets a chance to experience love and devotion, she is cruelly taken from you! It is at times like this that I want to shake my angry fist at God and demand, Why? Why, God? Why did you take beloved Kyra from Jennie and her family so cruelly?

Jennie, I'm afraid I don't have an answer. I'm sobbing as I write this because I'm angry.
There are so many hateful, mean people who don't deserve to draw breath and yet they live charmed lives. Or so we think.

One thing I do know, they will answer one day to God. And though I cannot fathom how Kyra could be taken from you so cruelly, I know that God will not leave you comfortless. What man has cruelly taken away, God will lovingly restore one day. At the Rainbow Bridge, Kyra will wait patiently for you. You will be reunited with her again...forever!!!

You will find solace and understanding here. We cry with you. We ache for your loss. Yet as Kathryn said, some of us believe that animals are angels and they come here for a specific purpose, albeit far, far too brief and tragic. Kyra is truly a special dog. She chose to experience both the dark and bright side of humanity. She is a very brave girl and you can count your lives fortunate to have been blessed and touched by the love and generosity of this dog. No truer giver of complete and perfect love ever existed. To be so cruelly treated and still be willing to forgive and open her heart to trust again is an act that only an angelic creature is capable of!

I grieve for you and I pray that God will comfort you and your son and give you strength and wisdom to help the both of you to cope.

With great love and sympathy,

--Susan
~ a voice for the voiceless ~
Missing Kamikazi
I am sorry for your loss.... I dont understand people who could hit animals and not stop. I know when I see anything... a bird... a squirrel... or anything other living being in the road... I pull a geico and either 1 swerve to miss it ( my attempt to try to make you smile).... or stop for it. One time I stopped to move a turtle out of the road. Another time I heard something hit my car and I stopped my car and walked a while back to go see what it was. Turned out to only be a big peice of a tire... but I know i could not have lived with myself if I had not stopped to render aid if it was an animal. Now that I think about it... apparently I need to learn to drive. ( again... another sad attempt to cheer you). Keep this in mind, though I know it wont bring your furbaby back.... I really feel that it will come back on them. And such an unfeeling crime I think will be visited 10 fold on the unpenatent. My prayers are with you and your family during this time.
Jazzygirl
Jennie,
Recently going through the 4 week or one month myself, I know how hard it is. I agree with what's been said before...you took her from a horrible life and showed her that humans are not all cruel. She lived her life to the fullest and died knowing love in her heart. What a gift.
I can't give you a reason why she was taken...but I know you can honor her life by maintaing that loving spirit in your heart. Kyra is still with you, watching over. And I'm sure one day, your heart will open up for another baby in need and Kyra will be so happy that you did. (I know you can't even fathom that, but maybe some day...I know for myself I'm not ready but I know I will be when the time is right.)
I hope you're doing okay today.
Audrey
Caroline
Jennie- I know how much you must be hurting right now. It has been 3 months for me since Lucy died. She was 5 when she passed away from cancer. I was so mad for so long that she went so young. I guess the anger over that has passed a little but I still miss her so much. The one month part was very difficult. I think Kyra was blessed to have you in her life. To have had such a tortured past and then to be placed in your loving arms. She had all her wishes answered when she met you. I think it is wonderful that she knew love like that in her short life. You and your son should lean on each other during this time. Nobody can make the pain go away, but you can talk about her and remember her together...not the bad part about how she died, but the good stuff, like what she smelled like and felt like, the funny things she did, the way she looked when she slept. Those are the memories that will bring you comfort. Hang in there...

Caroline
jennieg0607
I can not thank all of you enough for all of your help through my pain. My baby would have loved you all! I can not articulate enough to all of you how wonderful she was but I feel in my heart, that though you did not know her you can all feel her spirit because of your loving hearts. She will be with me again one day and I will be able to give her kisses again. Thank you all and God bless you all through your own pain and grieving!
jane
Our 7 month old kitten disappeared almost a month ago. We have advertised, asked neighbours, searched, checked the animal shelters, etc. No sign of him. I identify with your feelings of senselessness; our kitten was feral when he followed us home 6 months ago, and it seems insane that something should happen to him now when he was so loved, protected and cared for. We had no pets and had just moved into a new home, and our kitten seemed like a blessing on our new lives. We are childless and had also been undecided whether to move ahead with adoption, but we fell so completely in love with our kitten (the giddy, weak feeling you get when you are a teenager) that we knew we had a lot of love to give, and started adoption procedures. He seemed like an angel, as Kathryn has said...I think I prayed more in the 6 months that he was with us than in the decade before, so many prayers of thanks that he came into our lives, and so many prayers to keep him safe. He taught us what is truly important in life. Now I don't know what to pray for...I feel like it's been some terrible cosmic joke: "Now that you have discovered joy, I am going to take it away".

We have adopted two kittens from the RSPCA because the house was unbearable without our baby. These new babies keep us smiling and busy, and are saving us day by day...but I don't think I will ever get over this loss and the feeling that when one finds such pure love, it can just be snatched senselessly from you.

Jane
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