unfortunately, when it comes to online communities it does often come down to "mob mentality." i am sorry i wasnt around to see this activity take place, as it all occured very quickly from the posts and emails i am now reading.
it all boils down to words and the manner in which they are spoken and the way they are interpreted. in times of grief, our minds operate much differently. some become more pragmatic, others more emotional, others fill with anger, and still others choose to introvert. rather than repeating my comments on this matter again and again, visit
this post.