I lost my one baby last week, and her partner patches is feeling the grief much like i am.. she didnt eat for two days... i have been feeding her toast to keep her going, because she cant seem to keep down solid food.. She is laying on Sandys blanket and is generally depressed.. I took her for car rides, and am paying special attention to her. I know time will help, but of course i'm worried. Can anyone share some helpful things to do to keep the pets who are left after a death happy and healthy..?? I am trying to keep the family and my other furry friends from getting too depressed, its kinda hard when i'm walking around the house myself crying..I am awaiting the vet to call to say that Sandys ashes are there and i can put her next to my other baby Sheeba, on a shelf that i have dedicated to her, with pictures and favorite toys..I know picking up her ashes is going to just start the pain all over again. This is just the hardest thing and I"m trying to keep us all from falling apart.

I know that remaining pets do miss their buddies who have gone. I know that my Thor misses his little buddy Gandalf. I just try to give more loves and hope it will get better. I'm sure that my depression affects them also and then there is me out there calling for Gandalf every morning and night but doesn't come. Thor is eating again 4 weeks after Gandalf's disappearence but he's still a little mopey.

I actually found comfort in bringing home my Friskie's ashes last July. It was like he was home with us again. It's nice you have an area to put Sandy.

Hugs,
Dawn

It is a hard thing when our babies are so upset just like we are when we lose our precious babies. I know that when we lost Snookie and Chili Bean it hurt Gypsy Rose a toy poodle so much too. The more I cried the more sad she became, she quit playing and a far away look came into her eyes. Poor little thing became more depressed by the day. The vet said he could see the sadness in her now sad dull eyes. He gave her some pills to take and she got much better. It wasn't until I stopped crying so much that she got a lot better. The vet said they usually take 2 months or so before they recover after a death. Picking up my Snookie's ashes was bad but not as bad as I thought it would be. I am thinking of you.
Ann

Thank you for words of encouragement on bringing my baby's ashes home. She has a place next to Sheeba, as you can see by this picture, she still has a very special place in our home, and Sandy will be next to her always.

What a beautiful poem and picture I am glad like me you have a special place to put Sandy. I meant to say a little more about Snookies ashes when I picked her up. I had to make an 80 mile one way trip to pick her up. I take them to the vet in Jackson since they are better than the vet's here.

Anyway when I reached my arms out to take the box she was in I thought my knees were going to collapse but they didn't. I took the box in my arms without a word and hugged it to me. My husband and I went to the car and my husband and I sat there and cried.

I knew we could not open the box until we got back home and when we did Snookie was in a little tin. I opened the tin up thinking that maybe that's only what they put her in to safely get back to the vet's office. But what I found was a bag with all her ashes in plain sight, that in itself about done me in. I thought at least a cloth would be around the bag. But as soon as I got a nice urn for Snookie I felt so much better.
Love, Ann
A picture of Snookie's urn.