Yesterday morning, I lost a very dear friend. Zebby was a 14 year old Maltese dog, who finally had to be put to sleep due to a failing heart. I knew that this was coming, but I still am finding it very hard to cope. I keep looking for him everywhere, his companion , Darcy (Golden Retriever) is also distressed. I know I should be glad that Zebby is no longer suffering , but i miss him so much.

Hi Willow, I am just so sorry for the loss of your precious Zebby. It doesn't matter if we had a long time to get used to the idea that they would be leaving us or if they went suddenly. Both is a hard loss, with Chili Bean we didn't have any warning but Snookie was sick for 10 months and it still did not prepare me. It is normal to still miss them and cry for them and want them with us. Yes I know they are not in pain any longer but it is so hard to learn to live with them. Yet somehow with the passing of time we learn to live a new life without our babies. Please come and tell us more about your little Zebby. That is a real cute name too.
Ann

I am so sorry that you lost your little friend. Two weeks ago today my little Allie got sick, and by the next morning they had to put her to sleep. I know that your pain is still so new and so real, but I promise it will get a little bit easier every day. You won't miss Zebby any less, but the pain will lessen and you will start to look towards the sunshine again. Remember how much Zebby loved you and how much he would want you to be happy. But right now, allow yourself to cry and to miss him. Peace will come later. This poem helps me to keep my Allie close.

"Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped into the next room
I am me and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still
Call me by my familiar name
Speak to me in the way you always used
Put no difference in your love
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as you always laughed at little jokes we enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always has
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it
Life means all it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am just waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near
All is well"

Henry Scott Holland
1847 - 1918
Canon of St. Pauls Cathedral

God bless,
Jenny

Dear Willow,

I'm so sorry for your loss of Zebby. Even though you know he's not suffering anymore, I know you must miss him terribly.

You're in my thoughts.
Kathleen

I am so sorry about your loss of zebby. It is so very hard to lose them. Zebby is still with you in spirit, and the bond of love will never die.

That is a very beautiful poem Jenny.

Kim

Willow,
My sympathy to you on the loss of your precious Zebby. Everyone here knows how you feel and will help you deal with your grief. Thinking of you and Zebby's pal, Darcy, too.

Jenny,
That was a very inspirational poem.

Lynn