I thought it would get easier after six week, but somehow it seems to be getting harder and harder. I thought I was coping all right, but I guess I was in shock before. I miss my baby cat, holding him in my arms and having him talk to me. He was a talker. I thought it was silent before, but now it is even more deafening.

Thanks for having a forum like this. I work around some people who don't understand that it is like losing my son or understand that I could not love him more if I had given birth to him myself. I hope that being able to talk about Mijo will help in the grieving process.

This is a wonderful place to come and talk about our babies and share the pain. It really is sad that so often people just don't understand it is like losing our children. They are the ones who have never really loved with a pure love. They will never know what that kind of love feels like.

I am sorry you had to lose little Mijo. He was very beautiful, I am sure you do miss his talking to you. I know for me it too got harder as time went by. Then after a while the pain did began to lessen but I do not think it will ever go away. It helps me to talk about my girls so maybe it will for you too.
Ann

Mijo was absolutely gorgeous!!!

Tomorrow will be one month to the day that I lost my Inky and I have the same feelings that you've expressed... especially about the incredible silence. Inky was a great "talker", too. Black cats have lots to say, don't they? Mine told me his life story at least 4 times a day!!

Please know that your feelings and pain are shared by all of us. We know what you're feeling and we send our hearts out to you and will always be here to listen and to lean on.

Hugs,

Pat

Your cat was so beautiful! What does the name Mijo mean?

My furbaby was called Luba, it means "sweetheart", or "sweety".

The grief seems to come in waves. It is not unusual at all to have intense relapses of sadness. It often feels as though it's getting worse, but somehow it does end up getting better. It really is quite a journey to get to some measure of peace with it all though.

For me, this site helped a lot. Even if I was too sad to post, I would just read.

I hope the site can be same kind of help for you!

Thank you all! I am feeling so much less alone. And less like a weirdo who is still upset about her cat.

Mijo means "my son" in Spanish. He picked out the name himself. When he first strayed up, I would toss out names to see his response and when I said Mijo, he said Meow. Then I said a few more names without response. When I said Mijo again, he said Meow. So I said your name must be Mijo - to which he responded MEOW.

I love it!!! Mijo named himself! Now how special is that?

For many of us I am sure that losing a beloved pet is no less traumatic than losing a human member of our family. A loss is a loss, after all, and one goes through the same bereavement process as one moves towards healing.

I love the story of how Mijo chose his name! He was certainly a stunning kitty, and I can just imagine those conversations you had with each other. I had a very special black and white male cat called Nicholas-Thomas, many years ago now, and he and I would often sit and "chat" away to each other

What a great privilege we have as human beings to share our lives with these magnificent creatures, and to love and care for them

Avril

Yes, he was a talker. For 30 minutes after I got home, he had to tell me everything
he had done that day, how much he had missed me, what he wanted for dinner,
etc. Then when we went to bed he talked about what he had done outside while
searching for feline intruders in the yard. And in the morning, he kept saying "Hit
the snooze button, mom, and let's go back to sleep!"

so sorry that you are still having such a hard time. it has only been a month since i lost my kitty but i have found that i have some "normal" days when i can go about my business fine and days when i just lose it. i sometimes feel guilty when i have a good day - like i shouldn't be having good days so soon. but i know that just because i am happy doesn't mean that i love kitty any less.
you are right about this forum. i think that this forum is the reason why i am having so many good days so soon. it is such a relief to be able to talk about your pain with others who know exactly what you are going through. so many people do not understand the anguish caused by the loss of a pet and as someone said, they are most unlucky to not have experienced that type of love. it is so painful when we lose our pet but the love that we have been given while the pet was with us is most definitely worth the pain that we feel.
your mijo was such a beautiful cat. he sounds like he was a character, talking as much as he did. i'm glad that you were able to share his life with him.
hope you are feeling better soon, ah

Hi,
I am there with you. 3 1/2 weeks for me. Some days, I deal, laughing a little more but then, it hits me like a brick and i can't deal with the finality. Mister was a talker too. It really made me laugh a lot. I used to wish that he was human so I could figure out what he was saying all the time. I have 2 new kittens, and I am engauged with them, but sometimes, I find myself freaking out and looking for Mister around corners etc. I am glad to know that there are people out there that have similiar connections with their animals. I think that for peopl like us it is like losing a son or daughter. I miss him so much no one really understands except for all of you. thanks again for this siite.
Jason

Thanks to you all. Mijo was laid to rest 8 weeks ago last night. Gone, but never forgotten!
Ever. I miss you, you little snuggle-bunny. Even when you were fussing at me.

Pat, Glad you got a picture of Inky up. What a suave, handsome fellow! Jason, Pat, don't we miss our talkers?!?

Sweet little son,

it has now been almost 12 weeks since I last held you in my arms. Mimi, will it ever be easier? I think I am doing fine, then something reminds me of you, and I am devastated all over again, just as if it were yesterday. Momma Cat still loves and misses her baby cat, Mijo.

I still mourn the loss of my Felix from 2 1/2 years ago. I just lost my Puss Puss a week ago and I'm still full of grief. Your cat was a beautiful cat, my felix was a black cat so I have a fondness for black cats. I hope you feel better and take as much time as necessary to mourn the loss of your baby. I saw my Puss Puss as my baby so I know it will take a long time to heal. May your little Mijo rest in peace and always be by your side in spirit.

Mijo was my little baby, too, so I know what you mean about that.

Your Puss Puss was so beautiful! And of course I have a fondness for any black cat. Felix the Cat, what a wonderful, wonderful cat.

Please know thtat eveyone here will try to help you through your grief. It isn't easy, but it does get a bit easier. I can remember Mijo more often now without crying or tearing up.

For the first three weeks, I couldn't cry, but my heart literally hurt. I thought I might be having chest pains, but it was just grief. Then I couldn't stop crying for more than a week. Just remember to find someone to talk to (even on-line), cry when you feel like it, and bore everyone silly with stories of your baby. (I finally figured out that I've listened enough over the years to my friends' issues and problems so why should I hold back when I really needed to talk?!?)

Anyway, enough rambling. Our babies are always with us in spirit and embedded forever in our hearts.

Hi,

I don't think I responded to your first post about Mijo because I was taking a little time off. So, I just want to say I'm so sorry about Mijo. He was so very handsome. I loved that he told what his name was...a very dear name for your very dear son.

Take care,
Kathleen

Dearest Mijo,

It was a year ago today that I lost my little one. I sat out by your grave this evening and had a ceremony and told you how much I love and miss you. It's been a difficult year. In December, I also lost Grandmomma Cat - who loved you and spoiled you so much. At Thanksgiving, we were talking about how much we both still missed you in spite of the three kitties I have now.

I got them from the animal shelter: Dorje, a 5 year old blue-point Himalyan; KoKo, a 4 year old black DLH; and Cin Cin, a nine month old blue DLH. I love them too, but I will always miss my Sweetness. I guess it's obvious that it's taken 3 of them to make up for you, you little rascal!

Anyway, I will always love and miss my baby! Love you, Baby Cat! Momma Cat

Mijo,

It's been two years now without my baby. In addition to Dorje, Koko, and Cin Cin, Misha has joined us. She's a calico DLH who joined us last April. I thought we made a nice little family, but on Christmas Day, a new kitty came up. She is a black DSH named Bastet. She reminds me of you when she squeals for attention. And she does the head butting, too. Of course, they can never take the place of you, my little fat baby cat. Momma Cat will always love you the mostest!

How hard this first anniversary must be for you.

It sounds like you have several wonderful kitties in your life now and its nice to have them even though they are not your darling mijo.

It has only been just over a month for my Alley and I can't imagine what its going to be like when that 1 year anniversary rolls around.


"Hugs"

It's been 6 weeks since I lost my Jemima. And yes, some days are definetly better than others. But I know without the support of this group I wouldn't be doing half as well as I am. This is a place where you can express your feelings of grief; of loss as everyone else knows & understands what you're going through. Thank you everyone.

om mijo

Your Mijo was so handsome, I'm so sorry you lost him. Two years, while it gets eaiser each anniversary is so hard.

I lost my best friend and kitty cat, Butch, 10 years ago. I'm here now because a kitten we got right after he passed, Moustache, took his trip to the Bridge about 3 months ago. Even this year it was hard on the anniversary of Butch's passing, so I understand.

I'm so happy you have a such a great kitty family, wow a lot. Aren't they great!


Thinking of you
Lori

I am constantly overwhelmed by the support I get here. And what beautiful babies you have lost, too, Lori, Anne, and Alley's Mama.

I guess we can bear it easier by consoling each other. And, of course, remembering the wonderful times we had with our little ones. What joy they brought into our lives! I am thinking of you in these difficult times. June

In my mind, in my heart, you will always be my baby cat. I miss you, Mijo. Love always, June - aka Mama Cat