My Sasha died on Saturday, and for some reason I feel even worse today. I have no desire to eat, work anything. I just feel kind of numb. I am having a real hard time getting through this.

Mornings are especially hard for me since I really miss my little buddy being there for me when I have coffee and breakfast. I keep looking at her empty bed and feeling the loss. I kind of feel like I am just going through the motions of the day but inside I am empty.

I know all of you said you had good and bad days - this is one of my bad ones. I am also dreading Feb 14 as that is the day that she came into my life in 1993. She was my valentine baby my husband got me. Yesterday I got a sympathy card from my vet and that started me all over again. I wonder if I will ever feel the same again.

Nancy (Sasha's Mom)

Dear Nancy,

I am so sorry that you are having a bad day. You need to give yourself time and realize that the pain will be there for a while. Allow yourself to feel bad, allow the tears, and talk about your sweet Sasha. I can remember getting the sympathy card in the mail from my vet and just falling apart too. It is all so fresh for you right now. It wouldn't take much to bring you back down again. That's all normal and part of the process. I know it's hard to believe, but all these "bad days" are going to be the key for healing. Letting it all out is good, no matter how painful.

You're in my thoughts,
Cheri

Nancy,
So sorry to hear about your tough day.
Your loss is still so new.
It seems to me that the first days we are in shock over our losses.
When the shock is gone and reality sets in we have days where we feel really low.
I thought I was doing better. After all it's been 6 weeks for me.
But, some days it feels like I lost Indy yesterday.
I know our pain will lessen, it is just so awful working through this loss.
Thinking of you.
Fran

Dear Nancy, I am so sorry you are having a down day. Unfortunatly these days are going to come. Today I was doing ok then out of nowhere I start to cry and couldn't stop. We need to do our best on the bad days and try to think of the good memories we have of our loved babies. I still can't talk about Smokey with out tearing up, and I don't see that changing in the near future. It will take time, but at least you have this great support here. I do not know what I would do without LS. We will all be here for the good and bad days. Just try to be strong. I have not been eating well either, but we need to stay strong because that is what our missed babies would want. I hope tomorrow brings less sorrow, if not we will be here to help in the best way we can.
Kelly

Dear Nancy,

Thinking of you and sorry you are going through all of this sadness after losing your beautiful Sasha. It is a numbing experience in the beginning, before the reality of losing our beloved pets really sinks in. Valentine's Day will be tough for you but you'll make it through with all of us here behind you.

Take care,
Lynn

Nancy- I know this week has been as rough on you as it has on me. Hopefully the time will dull the pain. I know you miss Sasha so much. I lit a candle for Lucy tonight as it has been exactly one week. I will say a prayer for Sasha too...

Caroline

Dear Nancy,
Thinking of you, & will be thinking of you on Valentines Day too. My vet sent a sympathy card too - I was really touched. It's been a week for me too - it's been a hard week - & I know that "numb" feeling. Our furbabies are so much a part of our lives, & when they're gone it feels like nothing will ever be the same. You are in my thoughts.
Hugs,
Elsie

Dear Nancy,
I hope you know that we are all thinking about you and the pain you will have since you got your baby on the 14th. I'm sure you will be filled with so many memories of her coming into you home.

Maybe you will find tears of joy in those memories mingled in with your tears of pain. Just let those tears fall and if you feel the laughter coming on let that happen too. I'm sure Sasha would love to hear you laugh and please take care of yourself. I know for sure how sick a person can become.

I did not get Snookie on Valentine's Day but she was born a little bit before that day and I have always called her my Valentine's Day love puppy.
Ann

I just wanted to let you know I so feel for you today as I just read this is the anniversary you brought Sasha home. I know how hard certain dates can be. As you know I am still in shock/mourning over the loss of my Regis this past Friday and he was my one and only so I am new at this whole thing. I do know that I totally understand furbaby grief, more now than ever. Thanks for your thoughts and mine are with you.