[FONT=Arial] I am so sad my poor Jingles lost her battle on Thursday and died in my arms. I wake up at night thinking I hear her crying. I do nothing but cry . How and when will this stop? I never want another animal I get so attached I never realized how hurt I would be when she was gone.

Hi pgirl:

I am so very, very sorry about the loss of your precious Jingles....

I do want to tell you that although I wish you didn't have to find a pet-grief site............ I am grateful that you found your way here.......to us, at Lightning-Strike....
You will find sooooooo much comfort and love here........
We all KNOW WHAT THIS HORRIBLE PAIN FEELS LIKE...

You said that you awake at night, thinking that you hear her crying.........
In my experience, that is quite normal.....
After our Ernestine was put to sleep, my "brain knew she was gone", but still.....I heard many noises, and I thought
it was her....

There are soooooooooooooooooo many, many phases in the "grieving process", and right now.........you are right at the very beginning!
What I did, when I first came here at LS was:
Come here every single day, many times a day.......... Whether it was to post letters/notes myself, or to read the
posts of all the people here, that have gone before me......
I used to "pick a name, and then "FOLLOW THAT PERSON'S JOURNEY...........HOW THEY "GOT THROUGH THIS"..
It helped me to read the way other people "got through"......

That's really one thing that I would suggest that you do------it really helps!!!!

Please..............please........come back here and tell us all about your sweet Jingles.....
Everyone here would love to hear about her....

Well.........yes, we as humans DO GET VERY, VERY ATTACHED TO SWEET FURBABIES..............They are so loveable, and
"non-judgemental".............
that's what makes them so easy to fall in love with....

It hurts, and it hurts bad............BUT, WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU!!!!!
Just so that you know that......

I'm in the Northeast, so it's 11:25pm here now...........
There MIGHT be others coming on board........some are from England, and some stay up quite late......

I know that at least by tomorrow, supper time, you will have several responses to your post.........

In the meantime, if you can, please type a few things to let us know all about your sweet baby Jingles.... Okay????

God Bless You!!!!

Love, Denise xo

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, I know how hard it is, and that empty feeling. Muffins is right, you will find many here who understand just how you are feeling and your great loss. Pamela

I am so sorry for the loss of your little Jingles and we all know the pain that comes from losing our babies. Come and tell us more about your little one. We are here to help you through this pain that has broken your heart.
Ann

I, too, am so sorry that your precious Jingles lost her battle. I'm sure she stayed as strong as she could for you until her body could no longer fight.

When I lost my darling Rachael, I found this web site and asked the same question. How long will this heart-stabbing pain last? Everyone was very caring and responded that eventually the pain would get better. There is no set time we can give you. Everybody grieves differently. However, I can tell you that they were all correct. In time the pain will become easier to deal with.

There seems to be several things you can do to help aid in the healing process. Cry all those tears as often as you need to. There are healing tears. Come here often while the pain is so harsh and write out your feelings. Tell us more about Jingles. We'd love to hear about her journey in life. You may encounter people in your life that don't understand this pain. You should try to avoid them until you feel stronger.

It makes me very sad when I read in here that people who have lost a precious furbaby state they will never ever love another furbaby again. People like us are the ones that really understand and care for the furbabies like no other can. We have such compassionate hearts for them! I know the pain is terrible, but the rewards we get from loving a furbaby are like no other experience in life. I know another furbaby now would be the wrong choice, but I pray that some day (maybe even years) you will open your heart and your home to another furbaby.

Cheri

Dear pgirl,
I am so sad to hear that Jingles lost her battle. My Indy boy lost his on Dec. 28th. I know the pain and lonliness you are experiencing. It is 3 weeks tomorrow for me and the pain is still so new and fresh.
Cry as often as is necessary. Come to LS frequently. People here are so kind and supportive. They are helping me move through the stages of my grief and we will all be here to help you too.
Fran

[FONT=Arial] Thabk you all for talking to me. Jingles was just 8 weeks old whne she came to us. She was as playful and friendly as I had wished. She was my second child and a sister to my daughter. We are just devestaed by this lose and I in my heart feel I could never live thru this again.

Jingles loves to play find people. She also never let me out ofr her sight wherever I was she was. She in her healthy years was a 60 pound tan lab husky, shephard mix.

Ge, I miss her so. tomorrow I go to the vet to pick her up and bring her home forever. Ihave no idea how I am going to get thru this.

Thanks again,
Patty

Patty,
Keep coming and talking to us and we will help you all we can. It means so much to have someone to talk to who understands your hurt and pain. All of us here know what you are going through and how hard it is to be without our babies. I am glad you came back to tell us more about your little girl Jingles and the love you and she shared.

It was hard for me when I had to go pick my Snookie up, I wanted to be reaching out to hold my little girl in my arms, not picking her up in a box. I felt as though I was in a fog and I think that helped me to be able to get her and bring her home. Hugs
Ann

Dear Patty,

So sorry to hear about Jingles. You're right, our pets are children to us. I know just how you feel.

Thinking of you,

Love,
Lynn

Patty,
I am sorry that you lost your special furbaby. Reading other peoples travels through their grief will help you with your loss. I guess I shouldn't talk too much because I lost my special furbaby 7 months ago and I have my moments. I talk a lot about him but he was my son, brother and best friend to the end. It is not easy and it is a difficult road but it is a road, as humans, we travel throughout our lifetimes. Please don't say now that you will never get another furbaby. Leave that alone right now while you go through this hard time in your life. You have a special relationship and now it is even harder because your beautiful baby is gone physically. I think grief is dealing with a new way to carry on our relationship with someone who is gone physically. Whether it is human or furbaby it hurts incredibly (sp?). I believe our furbabies stay with us just in a different way. At least they aren't in pain but they can go everywhere, I mean everywhere, we go. Please come here often, everyone here at LS has gone or is going through the same thing in their own ways. You found a good place to see what they have gone through and share your feelings to get through this difficult time. You are in my thoughts and please just take one day at a time.
ChrissyW