My male cat has been killed by a car on the road. I did not neuter him. He roamed around the neighbourhood. Now I feel guilty as well as grief-stricken. I blame myself for not neutering him. I am thinking he would not have wandered if I had neutered him and would not have been killed on the road. A thoughtful neighbour picked him off the road. When I knocked on the neighbour's door, she said she had taken the cat off the road and kept him in a box just in case somebody came looking. It was an act of kindness. It was traumatic to see him. He was virtually unrecognisable. He had been totally crushed by passing cars after he was killed. I only recognised him by a distinctive rectangular shaped notch out of his left ear. It was definitely Thomas.
How terrible I feel. Guilt, Grief, Anger, Self-reproach. I was told that he wouldn't have suffered but I cannot get the image out of my mind of a vehicle running over him and him dying in agony. Please give me some counselling on this. Thank you.